Is it really that important?

[Kittykatxxo]

My boyfriend is always busy and hardly rings or texts me unless we are meeting up, his work is very demanding and he has other commitments, with that being said he never ever cancels plans we make and gives me his full attention when we are together and tells me to my face all the cute stuff doesnt go on his phone or anything and if I ever do text him to ask a question or anything he has never ignored me he rings me or texts back quickly normally bland just answering the question. Is this normal? I've never had a relationship where there is no text relationship involved

Some people just are not texters. DH will sometimes not reply when he's at work. Generally he will only use it to "chat" if he's in a train or something. It's for arrangements only. Same with my sister she hates texting.

Lol I’m with a useless texter too. I’ll text him in the morning and might not get answer until he comes home. Half the time he doesn’t even charge his phone 🙄. If he’s there for you in person I wouldn’t worry too much. We’ve been together for 4 years and he just lets me know I’m important to him in other ways. I’d onky worry if you seem to be constantly the last thought in everything

His job is very demanding so he won't have a spare second to text and other than this he sounds like a good 'un. Some folk just aren't texters.

I rarely text but mumsnet instead and DH works in a high security area where phones are banned.

Even my dad works in an engineering environment where phones are not permitted on the premises and my mum works in the NHS in a sensitive area again where phones are banned.

None of us text because of these rules. I find it surprising that you think frequent text messages are normal in a relationship.

For some people mobiles really are just for those odd messages saying you will be late home or pick up a loaf of bread bottle of wine on your way home. Thats the extent of their use to me.

“I've never had a relationship where there is no text relationship involved.”

That seems odd to me. I’ve been with my dh for over 20 years and we have never had a ‘text relationship’. Is such a thing necessary? Is it an important element of relationships these days?
It has never occurred to me that this would matter.

I do send dh the odd photo or funny but he rarely responds until later when he might mention it in person. I only do it to make him smile in a day. It’s not a test of his love or anything.

he never ever cancels plans we make and gives me his full attention when we are together and tells me to my face all the cute stuff doesnt go on his phone or anything and if I ever do text him to ask a question or anything he has never ignored

This all seems far more important than texting

I’m an old duffer so maybe thats the way these days. Have a virtual relationship via text and snapchat or whatever and occasional meet ups where you spend your whole time texting.

He does what he says he will do and spends time with you when he is with you. That should tell you all you need to know about him!!

I'm exactly like him. People are different. That all sounds fine (and much less hard work than constant texting) to me.

He sounds like a breath of fresh air OP

I agree. Someone who can get on with his day and life without needing constant attention and reassurance. Self-sufficience and independence are attractive traits.

OH he sounds like my ideal partner!! I hate texting for anything other than making plans or letting people know things they need to know. I’m not a text chatty person. I have friends that would sit all day texting back and forth with useless chatter and I can’t cope with it. Just bloody come and see me or ring me!

Just pretend it’s 1991 and you have nothing to worry about

This is how life was in the olden days. We all managed fine.

He sounds perfect to me.