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My birthday, who's treat?

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nosuger · 08/05/2007 22:25

It's my birthday on saturday...

My 2 kids are obsessed with a certain chinese resteraunt (all you can eat buffet) and we went their on DS1's birthday and DP's birthday and they have it in their heads that we'll be going on my birthday too...My partner however wants to take me to my favourite Indian restraunt. If we go there it will be just him and me, the kids will be at their dad's.

So, do I arrange another trip to the chinese place and keep our little 'birthday' tradition going to keep the kids happy or say "no sorry kids, its my birthday and we're doing something else whilst you're at your dads". Is that selfish?

What would you do?

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Genidef · 08/05/2007 22:27

Keep the party going...with multiple outings.

ScummyMummy · 08/05/2007 22:27

If possible I'd do both. Would finances allow?

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nosuger · 08/05/2007 22:28

no, we're both really skint, it has to be one or the other. Should also add that me and DP will be going to the cinema to see a film I want to watch whilst the kids are at their dads so if we did do the chinese thing me and dp would still be doing our own thing later on that night...

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controlfreaky2 · 08/05/2007 22:30

well what do you want to do??

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nosuger · 08/05/2007 22:31

I prefer the indian place but I like to spend the time with my kids so I'm really torn...plus I don't really want them thinking that everyone elses birthday should ammount to a treat for them...

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RosaLuxembourg · 08/05/2007 22:35

I would do Chinese with the kids because I know how much my children love to celebrate our birthdays with us and it sounds like yours are the same. (Not without an inward sigh at missing out on the Indian though).
If you do go to the Indian though is there something else special you can do with the children - a special birthday lunch at home that you can talk up to be even better than going to the Chinese? Let them help bake you a birthday cake or something?

ScummyMummy · 08/05/2007 22:37

Can you all go to the Indian?

Cazee · 08/05/2007 22:38

Children really do love parent's birthdays though! In class you can ask a question about verbs, choose a child with their hand up, and get "it's my Daddy's birthday today, we are having ice-cream!" other children count down the DAYS to mummy's birthday, "only 6 more sleeps till Mummy's birthday", honestly, they really love it, I would go with what they want.

ScummyMummy · 08/05/2007 22:43

Take the kids and dp to the Indian. You know it makes sense!

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