Am I over thinking things?

[Kittykatxxo]

So basically I've just started seeing a man who's 6 years older than me I'm 26 he is is 32. From the beginning he was never a big texter he would just ring if I texted him when we first met he told me it felt weird because he feels like he's always known me and every time we are together it's effortless conversation and so comfortable to the point we both (mostly more so me 😂) have to say let's calm down talking about this or planning things together recently he told me he can't believe his luck that he has met me at a time in his life where everything is going well and that the last 3 years he has stayed single to clear his head and build his buisness (which now takes up most of his days) but went on to say I'm the first woman since his children's mum that he's really let in and let his guard down with and he will do anything to make me happy, he is consistent but not so good at ringing and messaging me as he was at first and it is always me who initiates a date night but he will never let me down he will suggest getting away for a weekend but doesn't follow through I have to ask for him to do it he doesn't have much time with working and having his daughter 2 to 4 times a week but I always atleast get one day a week and a few phone calls but recently the lack of phone calls has got my anxiety high and started making me overthink obsessively in my head I haven't acted on this and the last time I saw him was 2 days ago where he told me he wouldn't be able to see me until next week because he has child commitments weekend and is busy with his friends on the other two days I went home and didn't hear from him because he had his daughter so today I messaged him and asked if he was going to be busy all night tonight to which he replied yeh why are you bored and I replied yeh I will just get an early night then ... I haven't over reacted to him but in my head I'm coming up with all sorts for the sudden lack of calls and wanting to see me but also compromise this by thinking we'll be is busy he has a business to run children and he never ignores me and sees me often. What are your opinions? Is this my anxiety insecurity in overdrive and should I just accept he is trying and be greatful. Thank you

You are 26. Do your I want a relationship with someone who is so committed to other areas of his life?

It sounds like he is a good dad with a busy work life. At 26 you have no ties and need to enjoy your life. There are many other decent men out there who you can be their first priority. If it’s make g you anxious this early on he isn’t the right one for you.

And you’ve ‘only just’ started to see him. This should be the honeymoon phase. Get out, work on your self esteem and have some fun!

It's all on his terms and he's not that bothered. You're chasing him and you're feeling insecure - it's not supposed to feel like that.

Do yourself a favour and cut your losses. You shouldn't stick around and be "grateful" for a relationship that isn't a good fit for your needs.

It all sounds a bit intense. Ime when it's like this in the beginning it's a struggle to bring it down and it fizzles out quite quickly.
It sounds as though he's a busy man and has a full life, it seems he is happy with the now casual status quo and doesn't have the time or desire to make this any more serious.
It's very early days so why , if he's busy, are you having an early night. Why not go out or do something you like doing without him. If your life is about waiting to see him then you have got problems. Not only will it drive you mad and is unhealthy but he's older, busy and sounds like he enjoys his life. If you make it all about him he will soon lose interest.
I don't get all this I'm anxious because he hasn't text, so what you've only just met him, leave him be and do your own thing. Any man worth having usually does't want a woman to hang on his every word, who clings to them. They want independent, strong, busy women who have enough in their life.
No man is worth making yourself feel the way you do, you're young, make the most of it.

Take a breath, OP. I get the impression you speak as you write.