ARGH - MEN (sorry rather long rant)

[Reallyfedup]

Can I have a rant please

DP asked me (several times) this morning what I have planned for today. I told him that the plan is to try and get our room sorted when DD will give me a chance. He said that he was going to leave for work about 12 o'clock.

About 10.45 DD said she wanted to go to the park, to which I said I would take her later if she let mummy get some work done. DP butted in and said, "why don't you take her now while I am in"( I was expecting a birthday cake to be deilvered), of course she heard this and wanted to go staight away. She then wanted to walk, but I wanted her in the pushchair, he butts in again and she gets her own way. When we were out of earshot of the house I put her in the pushchair as she would have been too tired to play if she had walked there.

Unfortunately when we got there the park was locked (but that is another thread on its own) so we came straight home.

He was putting something away in the living room when we got home. He asked me again what I was going to do today. When I said that I had already told him more than once, he said "Well, I am stressed at the moment". He has now gone to work earlier than planned because he "is obviously to stressed to be here"

He rarley thinks to help about the house and spends most of the time on Saturdays upstairs on the computer and moans if I ask him to look after DD for a few hours so I can go to bingo (about once a month). Sundays he is usually in work. When he gets home varies on where he is, but is is usually about 7/7.30pm which is close to DD's bedtime so he hardly spends any time with her.

I should really be doing our room now, but cannot be bothered. I just want to go to my bed and cry.

Rant away.

I have days when I want to scream my head off to DH for his lack of consideration. This is only example. It is 50/50 whether he is here in time for bedtime - and then usually it is only the story part as I have done the toilet, washing, teeth, pyjamas, brushing hair part. DD loves playing with her Daddy and when I have a go at him for not playing enough with her he says he loves to and really enjoys. Well then howcome I always have to push him, or she has to ask/beg?!

I think you need to sit down and talk to DP about how you feel and what would help. Get him to open up and perhaps try and see it from his point of view. I'm not saying his behaviour is in any way right but being all nagging and negative will probably push him closer to computer etc ( believe me I know)

I'm sorry you feel like crying - do instead go to the park, buy an ice cream and enjoy the sunshine - the room can wait. Fob DD off later with some TV whilst you do the room - and squeeze some time in for yourself!

Reallyfedup I sympathise. Just to let you know that it is not just your DP who is like this.

at the moment DH is working crazy shifts covering holidays and people off sick. We had a lovely long weekend in the Lakes 3 weeks ago, and since then DH has been at work with only one day off (yesterday - he put down the laminate floor bless him). I try to be understanding and compromise because of how he has to work, but some things really irritate me.

1. He gets home from work at 9pm, eats his dinner with a couple of beers, leaving a pile of dirty pots in the sink and empty beer bottles all over the house (he knows to load the dishwasher and put it on just before we go to bed!!)

2. Buggers off for the 'last hour' at the pub when I would really like to talk to him when he gets home from work.

3. Leaves dirty towels and clothes on the bathroom floor

4. DD says ' Daddy say night-night??' almost every night as she goes to bed, to which I have to reassure her he will be there soon as he is not there to bring her her milk and read her a story

I know he needs to unwind after a 10 hour shift, but DD and I need some time from him too!!