2 dcs to my ex. He lives 2 hours away. Sees them every other weekend and extra in school holidays.
The last 2 weekends he has tried to change things regarding drop off times. We meet half way. It's caused arguments between me and dh. The dcs travel to see him and him changing things has totally messed up our weekends. I'm in total agreement with my dh. And to point out, he isn't angry at me, he's just angry at my ex and has been in a mood, which I understand.
We had easter holidays sorted. Dcs were going up the first week. Ex then said it needed to change as his mum needed to work on of the days - should point out that he doesn't really have dcs when the stay, his mum and dad do 
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Anyway then sorted it that they would do the second week in the Easter hols. That actually worked better for us as dh had some time off so we would get some time just the 2 of us. We decided to book a night away near where the dcs will be the night before they come home and then we could collect them the next day. I didn't tell the ex we had booked to go away as no need too.
Last night the ex has changed it yet again, dcs need to come home on the night we are booked to go away. He said I had totally misunderstood and it had always been that day. I hadn't misunderstood at all. He's changed it again. I was always picking them up the Friday. He's changed it to the Thursday. I'm absolutely fuming. As is dh.
To top it all off, he's more like a fun uncle than a dad. Kids worship the ground he walks on but that's only because he takes them to fun places every other weekend. They always go to see the new films at the cinema or get taken out for tea. Which is great as me and dh can't really afford it a lot of the time so I'm glad they get to go out and do things.
The ex and myself have an autistic son and he's not involved what so ever. Doesn't have a clue about any appointments, school, how he's coping with things nothing. Never asks how he's coping with his condition.
He hardly speaks to them through the week. No idea how either of them are getting on at school, after school clubs, what they've been doing....absolutely nothing. He just doesn't care. He sees his life as a dad as 2 days out of 14 and that's it. And he thinks he's the best dad ever too :-/
I messaged him last week to say I had parents evening that night and he replied with 'ok I'll give you a ring after work to see how it went' he didn't and has never asked since.
I've stopped telling him anything as even when I do, all I get is 'oh right'. Ds was rushed to hospital last year with suspected meningitis. Rang ex straight away and all he said was 'let me know how he gets on, if it's bad I'll try come down' I literally screamed at him and he just said 'look I'm 2 hours away, what do you expect me to do'
Ds with autism can get very low and emotional at times and sometimes it even goes as far as him saying 'I don't want to be alive anymore mum' he's 8 :-(
Rang his dad to tell him and the response I got was 'oh well he's never like that when he's with me'
I'm well and truly fed up of him. I don't even know why I'm writing as I'm not asking anything from this post. It's more of a vent than anything else.
Dh is as angry as I am and I hate that it's coming into my marriage. I don't know what to do.