Our holiday was meant to start in 3 days. He already has a new girlfriend, wtf?

[RubyN]

Together for 2 years, LDR for the last 5 months with only 3 months before we were back together again. After being 100% committed the whole way through...

He suddenly breaks up with me in an email saying he has mental issues to sort through before he can be with anyone, 'I want to be alone' bla bla bla. When I pick my things up he kisses me, strokes my face, holds my hand, the whole nine yards. Now find out he's been dating this woman immediately after the break up, taking her on exact same dates, but to be honest - it looks like he started this before we split up. I messaged him saying I know about her and then deleted him on everything. He hasn't replied so far.

And I am going to sound mean but she is not attractive compared to him who is really handsome. She has been gushing about how good looking he is on her social media Sure, maybe she has a nice personality, but whatever...I am mad!! Especially as he said I was 'too attractive' for him and would realise it. I hated that he said I was too good looking and 'more intelligent', because it wasn't true.

How the hell could he move on to a new relationship so fast? We had 2 holidays booked together (the second one started this weekend) and he's already with a new woman. Did I really mean nothing to him?

I mean this gently.. step away.

You’re hurting and it’s understandable, but you’re not together anymore and this is really none of your business now.

And never say you’re not attractive or intelligent enough for a man, that’s all kinds of wrong.

Chin up, it was only 2 years and he’s clearly a cunt.

Well it seems he was seeing her before you split. The good looking thing is a way to blame you. Really.
He sounds insecure and wants someone to look up to him. OW is already doing this on social media.
Let him have it then. Prick.
lucky escape for you.

I've now deleted him on everything, but I felt I had to say something because I would NOT have let him kiss me and be affectionate etc had I known he'd already been lying/seeing a new woman. I wanted him to know that I knew what he had done and that he hadn't just got away with it without me knowing.

No, sorry, what I meant was he said: 'You are more attractive and more intelligent, and it's only a matter of time before you figure this out.'

I know what you are saying. But it was still 2 years of my life and I can't get my head round it. Thanks

Sorry this has happened to you.

Let yourself feel the pain, and eventually you will start to feel better.

Most people look back on a break up and realise it was for the best. Be kind to yourself and keep busy.

For whats it worth, I think he met this woman before you split up and thinks the grass is greener. I wouldn't surprise me if he realises its not and he then comes back. I hope at that stage you have the strength to tell him to sling his hook! xx

Thanks Snowman.

He even used to mock people that thought the grass was greener - now look. He won't come back as I told him I knew about the woman, that it looked like he had been seeing her while still with me and therefore I want nothing more to do with him. xx

I agree afterthevent...either he will feel good that she feeds his ego or he will find it pathetic after a while.