My H asked if I was ok him meeting an ex...I said sure...we're both friends with my ex....then I saw their message exchange , it sounded like a date..I asked him not to go, said I felt uncomfortable. He said, basically, tough....he went. I felt utterly lost, there and then he chose her. When he returned I was crying, he said he wouldn't see her again, said sorry etc etc. I cried a lot, then his behaviour changed towards me, always on my case, putting me down...I checked his phone...in fact I became totally obsessed with checking...every day, phone, laptop, etc ...I was certain he was seeing her and communicating with her. I asked outright, he said no. Nine months later I thought I was going quite mad. He went away with family, boys holiday. I write to him, please come back and be mine again. Three weeks later I found just one e.m. That proved there was communication...I confronted him, he lied, then said just a few texts in a few months....48 hours later admitted to seeing her a few times , inc Xmas. Further investigation I discovered the messaging had been on going since that first date.so, when he said he wouldn't see her again he had been messaging her all the way home ! Says he wants me, he told her he wouldn't be messaging any more....but it's not enough and I am stuck. It feels like she had her fun and now he wants to 'move on '....how do I ever trust him again...