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Does my ex regret dumping me?

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Unicornlover77 · 21/03/2018 00:40

Well to cut a long story short i was dumped last week out of the blue after a year together and he told me he didnt love me but cares deeply for me but doesn't want a relationship with anyone at the minute?? I love him very dearly and was in utter shock and devastation when he told me and said some home truths which at the time he said was a load of crap, but it was the truth about the way he'd been off with me lately. He then messaged me yesterday to say hes sad that hes hurt me and he hates that hes hurt me so badly and invited me round because something id got him to order had arrived. So today i spent the whole day with him and he cooked me a lovely dinner like nothing had changed except there was no intimacy and he gave me a little kiss and hugged me tight for about two mins when i was leaving which made me cry a little and said come whenever you want your always welcome. I got home and texted to say i was back safe and he replied glad your back safe it was nice to spend the day with you?? Im so confused what does he really want? He knows i really love and adore him but Im scared to ask him incase i push him away and i don't want to lose him?? What should i do?

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Adora10 · 21/03/2018 13:51

Why are you spending ALL day with him after he's told you he's not interested in a relationship and yes, like everyone else has said, he's being nice, his reason I don't know but he definitely doesn't want a relationship with you, he's told you this, sorry I know you are desperate to think otherwise.

Zaphodsotherhead · 21/03/2018 13:55

No. You want him to regret dumping you, so you are reading things into his actions which simply aren't there.

He'd probably happily stay friends (why not, after all?) but that only works where NEITHER party has romantic feelings for the other. If you are still pining after him, you will only get hurt. Tell him you're going No Contact for a year, if you still want to be friends after that, then get back in touch.

I can practically guarantee you will have forgotten all about him by then.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 21/03/2018 15:46

If he wanted to get back together he would have said something.

He didn't.

Sorry, but it definitely sounds as though this is what you want to happen, rather than the actual situation.

Have a bit of dignity and walk away. Personally, I'd go NC to draw a line under it. The 'staying friends' thing just cannot work so soon after a break-up.

deborath · 03/04/2019 04:46

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LellyMcKelly · 03/04/2019 06:06

Stop clutching at straws. If he wanted to be with you he’d be with you.

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