Need serious help with ex gf

[samthoams98]

I need somebody help because my brain is in a weird confused place at the minute and I know everyone on here gives good advice.

Over 4 months ago me and my girlfriend split up as we had problems and just seemed to not get on anymore and the relationship became quite toxic because it wasn't too much.

Three weeks later she rebounded with one of my friends and started seeing but not dating him for a few months. Months later she ended up telling me she liked him but was still in love with me.

Stupidly enough, we were seeing each other for a month on and off and having sex etc. My ex friend found out and he was super annoyed and was remarking her as a slag etc and loads of stuff went down. Keep in mind we're all 18 here so we're very young.

I've been trying to be civil with everything and not step on anybody's toes but I really love the girl and its hurting because we know we aren't going to get back together. She text me saying "No I don’t regret it I’ve enjoyed you’re company so much I just think it’s going to end in tears if we carry it on. I’m not like leaving the country u know like we can always still be friends even when I’m at uni I’ll come visit u at weekends and u can come to me"

I think what she was saying was so naive as that would never work. I just feel like she's messing not only me but this other guy around and she talks to him also. The other guy isn't such a much for still trying to be with her even though he knows we've had sex multiple times.

I guess in all, I've regained feelings but I don't know if she has the same ones as she can seem to just brush it off and not speak to me, then contact me days later.

Any advice would be extremely appreciated. Thankyou everyone.

I think you need to move on , this girl doesn't seem to be behaving in a way that suggests she wants a relationship with you , I'd disentangle yourself from the whole love triangle focus on you , your friends and hobbies . I'd also delete her number and remove her from social media so that you can move on properly .

Cut all contact and try and move on. You've said yourself it's toxic and she probably likes playing you off against your friend. You need a clean break, if you keep trying with her you're only going to get more hurt.

Oh and maybe block her ( if she keeps contacting every few days) as that won't help your healing process . If you see her face 2 face and she asks you why you have blocked her then you can just say you don't feel it necessary to be in touch with ex's and you're moving on , wish her the best and adios . You're very young and have the world at your feet , it hurts now but it will pass

Yeah thanks,

I just said like there's never gonna be an inbeteeen with me and her so I can't just be friends. So I'd rather just cut everything off as it would've make things easier, she said she respected that and I haven't replied.

Just seems weird as she seemed into me and she wouldn't just sack everything off and see me and have sex for no reason.

It's possible she is enjoying the attention of you both.
Give yourself a break, move on, if you have to, then block.
You should be having fun at eighteen, like she evidently is.
It does hurt, but it will only hurt more, if you stick around.

Yeah im trying my best. I was slowly getting there over the months and I've let it happen to me again and I knew I shouldn't have gone back there because it's messed with my head again

She’s revelling in the drama. Cut the oxygen supply from the fire & block her. Life’s too short to waste your time & headspace on an idiot

My son is 18

I can't imagine him posting for advice on a mum's website.