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Still moody after an argument

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char187 · 20/03/2018 12:08

Every 3/4 months or so my dh just starts an argument over nothing. The littlest things that usually wouldn't matter. We never argue about big things really and the majority of the time, we get on great.

But like I say, every now and then he just starts an argument. It comes out of no where though sometimes I can sense them coming.

It happened on Sunday morning and we had a crap day due to it. I won't go into the nature of the argument but it was over something that was quite petty imo. T was around childcare.

I spent Sunday in tears (no in front of him). He spent Sunday miserable.

Yesterday I messaged him while he was at work letting him know how petty he was and how I did not like the way he spoke to me. He apologised for shouting but said I wasn't seeing it from his point.

Last night we talked it through and he said I still wasn't seeing it from his point, I said I don't appreciate being shouted at.

Then he went back into normal mode and he's been making an effort to make it up to me. He made tea, cuddled me all night, rang me this morning just to say I love you.

I'm guessing he does this argument every 3/4 months as maybe there are little things that frustrate him in our marriage and sometimes they all build up. I don't know.

Like I say, we don't argue often at all. I told him yesterday that I cannot cope with the petty arguments he causes. I understood his point but we could of talked about it instead of him just getting angry. I've told him we won't last if he continues but now I'll look forward to 3/4 months of us getting on fine before he does it again.

He's not scary, not abusive. Just goes into dickhead mode every now and then.

Next time he does this, I'm just going to completely ignore it if I can. I'm just not the argumentative type at all. I always cry, not just with him, I'm the same with everyone.

Anyone else a dh that goes into dickhead mode every now and then?

OP posts:
MarieG10 · 20/03/2018 13:42

No but if I did, I would have to know why he went into dickhead mode...was he like this when you met before you married?

Shoxfordian · 20/03/2018 13:48

No but I wouldn't put up with shit like that

char187 · 20/03/2018 16:07

Erm yes and no. Before we were married not as frequent. I don't think we had our first argument until at least a year into or relationship. I suppose things can't be perfect all the time, he's the most loving man I've ever known tbf. It tends to be if he's had a stressful week at work aswell. Like I say, it's not abuse, he's not violent. He just loses his cool over something that I would consider to be minor. But then I'm the type that lets everything slide as I hate arguing

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Chasingstars88 · 20/03/2018 18:21

If I'm honest with you..
It sounds like a completely normal relationships and some arguing is healthy.

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