I am a bit shocked and upset today. I am married to a man with Autism. We have been together since 2010. Due to his interpersonal difficulties it is not an easy marriage.
Last night I lost my cool after days of feeling frustration at how little he initiates helping at home. I have to chase him to get any help at all. It is very draining.
After my rant I appologised and tried to explain that it is hard to be responsible for everything.
We cannot ever really talk and resolve issues between us because any conversation of a personal nature results in him going silent and shutting completely down.
When I went to bed, he was in bed asleep. When I went to get into bed I discovered that he had put a heap of crushed up cat biscuits and rubbish in my side of the bed and then tidied the cover so I wouldn't know.
I feel incredibly hurt. Such a petty and vengeful thing to do. It is nasty and is a behaviour that I would never do. I believe in being direct and talking things through.
That isn't possible with him. He is silent and says he cannot speak about personal relationship problems.
This though is new and is a real low in the relationship for me. Being married to someone with Autism is incredibly difficult. I am more carer than wife.
I am just so very hurt that he put rubbish in my bed. It is such a childish response to an adult problem. It feels like the final straw. The relationship is so one sided and he never shows any feeling or concern for me at all. He lives in his own world.
Am I overreacting?