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Dating pace - toothbrushes - then what?

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ditesmoitout · 19/03/2018 23:46

I have a feeling this might be long , sorry.

Dear wise people of mumsnet can I have your opinions please?

I am new to dating, I'm a 28 year old woman and was coupled up from 17 to 27 with my ex-partner, also a woman, no children.

I became single about 18 months ago and enjoyed a frenzy of ohh, I'm a single adult with my own appartement and a stable income for the first time ever - time to experiment with tinder

Now I'm done with that - have it all out of my system (no regrets, t'was fun while it lasted) and I think I've finished mourning my last relationship.

I'm finally dating a lovely guy (36) I met at the beginning of January. We seem to have settled into an unspoken pattern of seeing each other once during the week for dinner or drinks if we are real late out of work and one evening a weekend until late afternoon the next day.

I find this is perfect as we both work long hours (city jobs), travel a bit for work and have independant social lives and we have yet to perfect the art of sleeping enough and not staying up talking and well... all night when we see each other. More than one school night a week and I'd be too exhausted for work.

I'd say we are pretty casual, we haven't had any talks about us but we have had some deep conversations on our childhoods etc. I think we align well politically, enjoy the same food, go to the same concerts, enjoy stealing books from each others bookcases etc. We both briefly mentioned our ex's this weekend because coïncidently both of their fields came up on the radio.

I don't really know how dating works and am for the first time navigating the casual sexism that comes from dating a man (not him, but things like waiters at restaurants systematicaly asking him and not me to choose the wine - I'm not in the UK and I think things may be slightly more sexist on the whole here.).

Anyway, when I got back from work this evening I noticed that he had left his toothbrush in my bathroom, not next to the bassin with mine but neatly standing up in a glass in the cupboard with a post it stuck to it that says "oups, I forgot my toothbrush".

Is this a way of saying we are an item? Or am I over interpretating?

I really like him would an appropriate response be to leave my toothbrush at his?

Should I ask if we are seeing each other exclusivly? Should I add him on facebook? Should I invite him to a party with my friends? Should I ask him if he wants to go away for a weekend? Should I suggest seeing each other maybe an extra time a week for time to time?

I have no idea, I'm really happy with things as they are but I'd also be happy to see him a little more or introduce him to some of my social circle.

Mumsnetters, enlighten me! Thankyou.

TL/DR -> He left his toothbrush at mine - does that mean something?

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TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 19/03/2018 23:48

Bumsex.

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 19/03/2018 23:50

I'm kidding on. You're over thinking it.

A toothbrush is £1. It's hardly an investment in the relationship. But it could be construed as a nice gesture.

If he leaves his electric toothbrush at yours it means he wants to marry you Wink

FlyingMonkeys · 19/03/2018 23:51

Has he previously been using your toothbrush then? 🤔

ditesmoitout · 19/03/2018 23:53

He's been bringing an overnight bag and taking it home.

It's a disposable electronic one, the little vibrating ones, 7 euros at least!!!

Overthinking is my forte.

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TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 19/03/2018 23:55

ooooh he's fancy.

Just read it as a 'thinking of you' note with a practical application.

He likes you. That is nice. Just enjoy it and take it as it comes.

ditesmoitout · 20/03/2018 00:05

So, no marriage proposal next week, ;-) ?

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FlyingMonkeys · 20/03/2018 00:18

If he starts leaving his washing for you, I'd draw the line 😉

ditesmoitout · 20/03/2018 08:17

I struggle with my own washing as it is #Millenial

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