Overly attached to mother, so bad attitude every Sunday

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Hi, my girlfriend who is in her mid 30s goes to see her family most weekends. When she gets back most weekends, she often cries because she misses her mother and has a bad attitude, I think it is abnormal right? I am not sure if to just exit this situation. I am cool with people being close to their mother, but this is ridiculous right?
She got back from her mums today and talked to me like crap! What do you think is the best thing to do?

Does she belongs to a culture where time with family and extended family is so important? If so, it is not that strange, she may feel as if she is missing out on something that is and has been very important in the dynamics of her family life.

If she is not from one of this cultures, where families don’t leave in each other pockets, then it is a bit strange.

But either way, you have the same problem: is this something you are prepared to live with? If not... you may be much better letting her go.

Where families do not live in each other pockets...

I don't mind her spending time with her family, it is just I feel like hiding behind the sofa when she gets back because I know I am in for snappy attitude and it makes me not want to talk to her out of fear that the response is going to make me feel emasculated. Yes she is from a culture that does probably value family a bit more than average, but I think even still I think it seems very over the top and I don't think culture can excuse how she is. Hopefully when I spoke to her she will change, seek help or get so mad I brought it up.. leave anyway.

Have you met her family - what did you make of them and if you haven't met them why not.
Her parents maybe domineering - we don't know?
Her mother may have been put upon by men and she gives her daughter a talk every time she goes. Why don't you go with her. It's all a bit odd really.
You need to talk to her. Tell her she changes after she has seen her family and your concerned about this.
Your girlfriend sounds immature.
Good luck

1. it is odd that she goes home every single weekend when she has a life with you where you are.
2. it is odd that she does that entirely separate from you. This really suggests that her life with you is not her first importance. By the time you are 30 you should have a life away from home. If you ar eserious enough to be looking at marriage, where is your joint decision making, joint decisions about leisure time etc.
3. It is odd that she is so distressed upset when she gets home, it is not normal, normal would be coming home having had a nice time and ready for the week ahead.

I do agree with the poster who said, either her family are toxic, or she is unstable, or there is something wrong in her life with you. We cannot know which it is as we don't see the whole story

Hopefully when I spoke to her she will change, seek help or get so mad I brought it up.. leave anyway.

You hardly sound bothered, irregardless of the issue with her Mum, why are you in this relationship (never mind discussing marriage) if you're so unarsed?