Nightmare ex

[DusktilDawn]

I've been dating someone for 2 months and although he split with his ex a while ago, she is still harassing him and sending abusive messages.. generally making his life miserable. When we're together it's amazing but I know she's really getting him down and it impacts his mood.

Should I completely back off and leave him to it?

Is there any reason why he is not nc with her? Any dcs?

How long have they been separated for? Do they have kids together? Were they together a long time/married? All these things will indicate as to if this contact might continue or not.

Also, if they don't have kids together, and it's really getting him down, why hasn't he just blocked her?

When I was with my ex she used to bombard me/him constantly. Christmas Day, Valentine's Day, didn't matter. She always found our numbers when we changed them and blocked her.

Always angry at him and trying to warn me and I thought she was jealous.

I should have 100% listened to her. It's made me realise how true the saying no smoke without fire is.

I hope this isn't similar to your situation.

Couple of things -

1. how long has it been over between them?
2. do they have DC together or any other binding factors (assets, job, friends)
3. what was the situation behind their break up? Was an affair involved?
4. have you seen the content of the messages? Is he happy to discuss her and what happened/is happening, or does he just refer to her as an ex?