Dreaming of ex

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I had a serious boyfriend aged 15-21 we were very much in love and I broke up with him when I went to uni after a year as I felt the long distance wasn't working.

I am now 36, married to a fantastic man, we have been together 6 years. I have also had several other short relationships in the middle.

I can't remember about the first few years after we broke up, but certainly for the last ten, I dream about my first love. And us reuniting. I am talking 4-5 nights a week I have this dream, us meeting in different scenes, and the feeling is always the same in the dream, that we can't wait to be together. We kiss and are passionate and I have regular sex dreams about him too.

I have looked at all the theories - that your old love can symbolise a different period of your life, and not necessarily the person. But it doesn't feel that way.

I don't spend my waking hours thinking about him. He did send me a message on social media about 2 years ago. I was hesitant to respond too much as I would not be crazy about my husband striking up conversations with his ex, albeit an ex from 16 years ago. But I'll admit his messages to me were very flirty. After waking up today after yet another dream about him last night I am so curious why this keeps happening and will it go on for the rest of my life? I feel guilty and quite frankly it is making me question my feelings.

Any ideas?

It s usually symbolic of something else. I have regular dreams of past lives and frequent ones if someone I have loved for a long time but never had a relationship with. He is usually dressed in white I e the saviour....

I find them quite unsettling for a time but they are not a signal to get in touch although the temptation might be great. Just that something is playing on your mind. Are you hankering for a time when life was easier may be?

I would be inclined to agree but this has been going on for years and years and the scenario is always the same.

I just don't understand why this man is always the romantic lead in my dreams 99% of the time and my husband isn't

Maybe I should keep track of my emotions when these dreams occur. I am feeling very unsettled and nostalgic at the moment at the loss of my mother. But as I said I can have these dreams about him on and off all the time, for years on end.

I don't necessarily believe this, but it almost feels like my subconscious is still really attached to him? But my conscious mind isn't!

Recurring dreams, or dreams with a recurring theme, can definitely point to something going on in the subconscious, or unresolved fears and anxieties.

What I have experienced at times is the conflation in my dream of the outward appearance of an ex, with the personality of a different ex. So a character might look like my ex from when I was a teenager, but behave like my husband. Is that a possibility for you?

I have had the dream (s) where it's my ex. We making love and it's very loving. But it was never like that with him. ( it was good but this is so loving and close )
My logic is it's my subconscious playing out forgiveness - sort unfinished business. I always feel at a peace afterwards.
This a relationship from 26 years ago. I'm happily married -,20 years.