I know I'm probably being unreasonable

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Been with partner 2 1/2 years now have had trust issues from start he was still talking to women online for a few months after we met after we had agreed to come off the dating site we met on.

He works In a mostly female work place seen on his phone a few times flirty messages to some of them one text him a few weeks ago really late at night saying hi he didn't reply but something made me feel uneasy about it.

Anyway he was on phone last night and going through whatsapp pictures when one came up his manager had sent in a group chat of her in a bikini I know I sound over the top but it's really annoyed me I know it wasn't just sent to him but it was saved in his gallery do whatsapp messages automatically save to gallery? Or do you need to save it yourself ?

I also have issues with his sons mother she speaks to him like shit and is so difficult with everything doesn't matter what I say about it he has excuses for her I'm thinking of asking him to move out for a bit to give me space from the whole situation but don't know if thats the right thing to do any advice would be appreciated.

Hi yes I think WhatsApp images automatically save to gallery mine do.

If his manager is sending bikini pics that's so inappropriate!!

Have you discussed with him how it makes you feel?

It was sent in his works group chat she was at the beach I know it's probably innocent but it's just made me feel a bit shit yes I've spoke to him about things like this Alot I don't think he sees it from my point of view I've never been like this in a relationship before only this one.

Whatsapp pics save directly to your camera roll. If this pic has been sent to a works group rather than to him privately, i think its probably innocent and the manager is obviously just show-boating a bit!

Its in appropriate of her to do this anyway really if she's in a managerial position! However i don't think it sounds like anything you should be worried about.

Whatsapp does that automatically.

Thanks for responses I know deep down it's innocent but sometimes I think the way most of them are in the work place is just too close and it makes me uneasy.

Yes WhatsApp does that automatically but you can disable it.

He was wrong to remain on the dating site. No wonder it put that doubt there. But if he hasn't done anything wrong since you need to either find a way to move on together or accept you will never trust him and end it.
I work in a small team of people, it's common to become close when you spend so many hours a day with someone.
You can't control his other relationships/friendships because of your own insecurities.
If he is happy with his relationship with his ex and the dynamics of it work for him then that's his business. I don't think you have any right to talk about the mother of his child in a way that makes him feel he needs to defend her.
His relationship with her is about his dc not you.
I don't think anyone would blame you for ending it after what he did but really your time to end it was two years ago. That being said you dont need a reason to end a relationship that isn't making you happy. You're perfectly entitled to recognise that this isn't good for you and choose your own happiness.
However don't ask him to move out hoping that he will change/end the relationships/friendships to get you back as that would be manipulation and not very nice.

Leaving aside everything else it seems to me that this relationship is basically not making you happy. It doesn't really matter whose fault it is but is it honestly worth prolonging?