Don’t really know what I’m looking for on here as I think I already know the answer but would be nice to get some people’s opinions/experiences..
Despite the thread (and I know it looks like it) I’m honestly not heartbroken or upset, confused more than anything.
So, I met a guy on POF (been on there a year on and off now) we started chatting and seemed to get on, after a few days we started speaking on the phone for hours on end. At this point we were literally texting all day, he would ring me after work, before bed etc. After a few weeks I decided to invite him over to finally meet, we decided to just have a chill night rather than having a couple of drinks so we cosied up on the sofa and put a film on. After a couple of hours we ended up in bed together (told myself I wouldn’t on the first night but hey ho things happen). I wouldn’t say it was great but I would put that down to it being awkward the first time and not knowing what each other liked. After that we just cuddled, he played with my hair etc and we ended up falling asleep, I woke up really early and decided to have a shower (had a shit night sleep but that’s because I’m not use to having anyone in the bed with me). I decided not to get back in so went downstairs and watched tv in the living room, he woke up a few hours after and stayed for about 15 mins before heading home. It did ring alarm bells with me that he didn’t stay for long considering he didn’t have to be anywhere but I just thought he wanted to get home and have a shower, get on with his day etc.
The day he went home we were still texting, day after not so much but he was in a pissed off mood because his car had been in a hit and run so I thought I’d leave him to it. The day after he messaged me again which I was surprised to see as I thought he would of sacked me off by then, he told me he wasn’t very well so again I left him to it, told him to get better and to message me when he was.
Day after, nothing?!
Haven’t heard from him now in 2 days. Just so confused as I honestly don’t think I did anything to put him of. I wasn’t needy or clingy and just left him to it when he was ill rather than pecking his head. He hasn’t been on POF since meeting me (wasn’t snooping, he’s at the top of my messages and it tells you the last time they were online). Just so confused more than anything? I genuinely feel we got on and had a nice time. He told me he was looking for a relationship and he made so much effort in the beginning. Have I honestly been shagged and bagged?! What I can’t understand is why message me afterwards? Surely he would of just ignored me/blocked my number the day after. I have to admit I didn’t make much effort in regards to texting (he was always texting/ringing me first) but like I said before I just didn’t want to be needy!
I think I already know the answer but it’s so disheartening, even the genuine ones turn out to be nobs! Sorry for the essay, didn’t realise how much I’d typed!