Hi,
I'm looking for some advice. I am getting divorced after 5 years marriage. I have a baby that was only a few weeks old when my ex decided he wanted out of the marriage, and a 2 year old. I had to divorce him as he wouldn't leave the house, and wanted me to move out with the children. I owned the house prior to marriage and all of my savings went on house renovations and 5 rounds of IVF, my husband had a vasectomy in previous marriage and a child already so we were not entitle to NHS help. Until recently my husband earned significantly less than I did and contributed nothing to the household for 5 out of the 7 years we were together. I am about to get made redundant, and as primary carer to the children I will not be able to have the earning capacity i previously had, as won't be able to afford 2 amounts of childcare etc. I have been told that even after a short marriage he is entitled to around £100K which will mean that I get to keep the house, but not be able to afford to live. I could sell the house but it wouldn't change the fixed costs at all, and not really change my position. I will also not be able to claim benefits as it will show that I had a redundancy payment, even though i will straight away pay this to my ex, so will be seen on my national insurance number etc. Does anyone have any advice where they have managed to pay significantly ex, or any advice on what i can do. Feeling a little scared and vulnerable for the children, as my ex doesn't pay any maintenance and even when it starts it won't be much at all.