how to improve the way I get treated by people

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So I've been blown out for a night out tonight by someone don't know that well but we'd arranged it ages ago and I was hoping a potential new friend (we are both single and around the same age, so were going to do a night out socialising.) Earlier in the week I was meant to be meeting somebody else for coffee and basically got stood up as she forgot she said. Then they say can we rearrange. I think I maybe am seen as 'nice' but maybe a bit of a doormat? I'm an lp so its really hard to get babysitters and arrange nights out and I don't have tons of free time. I do have some reliable friends, luckily, who I see sometimes, but since I'm single I'm always open to meeting new ones. So it is disappointing to get blown out. Tbh I don't really feel like saying 'that's okay' since its not okay really. Is it just part of modern life where people can be a bit flaky. Any advice for these situations? thanks

Does this happen a lot, or is it just these recent ones?

No it doesn't happen a lot, thankfully. Just disheartening I think having two close together. The thing is, I feel like saying no I don't want to rearrange really. I just end up saying okay

Having said that, I don't go out loads, as a lot of my friends are married or coupled up and understandably don't want to socialise much at weekends.

If it's the first time I'd give them the benefit of the doubt but if they repeat it. Bin them. Life's to short for flakey types.

Sounds annoying. Let them chase you a bit for another arrangement (I mean let them initiate texts, suggest times and places), and then see how you feel. Brush them off if it doesn’t feel right at that point.