Ugh have I judged this completely wrong

[New2OLD]

Separated from exh around three months ago...15 years together he cheated.

Anyway started to dip my toe into the world of OLD and nearly four weeks ago met this lovely guy. He planned a lovely first date...then a second constant texting etc slept with him on second date the chemistry between us was amazing....had a third,fourth and fifth date but he just doesn't seem as into me as he was at the first and second date.

Was with him today I thought we had a nice time then tonight I've heard nothing...just a bit miffed he said all the right things and mug her fell for it 😞😞

Ended up caving texted him and told him I was confused again by last night are we leaving things or seeing each other and he replied that we should just see how things go...if it's meant to be it'll be....bullshitter yeah?

Bless you OP. I do agree with PP that you need time before you dip your toes, as you’ve found, there’s a lot of sharks out there!

You’re loving the feeling of that attraction at the start of a new relationship, it’s highly addictive. You will get over it, because the ways he’s acting will piss you off in the end.

He’s playing the field bless him, so many women, so little time, he’ll learn.

In the meantime, distract yourself and chalk this up to experience, if he’s like this now, he’ll not get any better, but you deserve better. Tell him you’ve accepted a date with someone else, that’ll dent his male ego no end. There are some decent blokes out there, so don’t tar them with the same brush, and when you’re stronger you can cast your net again, but you’ll know which ones to throw back in

Good luck

God RUN like the wind.
you are just out of a relationship and vulnerable, and he has latched onto this. Before you know it, you'll be an addict and be jumping through hoops of fire just to get a little bit of affection
TRUST ME
Say, that's not what I want, but I wish you well then BLOCK
honestly this is going to fuck you up

I don't think you "fell" for anything and you're not a mug? You just shagged a man and enjoyed it and now you are not going to marry him.

That's ok you know!

Do try to switch off the part of your brain that is turning to this complete stranger to soothe your feelings... much better to just have a word with yourself, remember that you are simply get back in the saddle, and any feelings you're having etc are just you practicing how to do this dating thing.

Feeling starved of affection and really getting lots of pleasure out of attention is natural, normal and nothing to be afraid of.

Just keep it in perspective, you feeling that way doesn't mean that the person who is giving attention/affection, is someone you want to have a relationship with.