Having a baby with the wrong man?

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I really need some advice..

I'm now just turned 16 weeks pregnant, I'm only 24.

My partner just doesn't seem that bothered, he comes home every night wanting to drink or do drugs. I always ask him to quit but his response is always "if you're that unhappy with me leave". Most of the time he disappears off down the pub and doesn't come back until late at night. I've been with him over 2 years and he doesn't seem to be showing any signs of changing. He has no consideration for the fact I'm tired from pregnancy and I work full time.

I just don't know what to do, I feel so isolated and alone I used to have a life and friends before all this happened but I don't feel like I can talk to anyone because I don't want people to think bad of him. Even now I'm sitting home on a Friday night pregnant and on my own whilst he's down the pub. To be honest he's the one that convinced me to get pregnant and I feel as if now it was a control thing to keep me home whilst he can do what he likes.

Please help me with some advice.. this is my first baby and I'm petrified of being on my own I just don't know what to do. I've never felt so low in my life and I know I need to get it together because of how much I will love this baby but everything around me right now is just so hard.

He sounds awful. You should tell your family and friends what he’s really like so they can support you. You are petrified of being alone but having a baby is hard work and being with someone like that who doesn’t love and support you will only make it worse. You’d be better off surrounding yourself by people who genuinely care about you than relying on this moron.

Leave, to put it simply, life as a single mother will be 100x easier than a life in a 'relationship' with him.

Put you and baby first x

It's an awful situation to bring a baby into, a dad who drinks and does drugs much less the other stuff relationship wise.

Two years of dating was far to soon to decide on a child. You can leave but the child will have the father for life by force not choice. He will be classed as an equal parent in the eyes of the court and you will have to have contact with him as co parents for the next eighteen years.

Dont compound the mistake you made by getting pregnant by this idiot, by staying with this idiot.

Being a single parent is no walk in the park but being a single parent to a baby and a man child is much, much harder.

You are about to have a child and that means swallowing your pride and making better decisions based on you and your child's long term wellbeing.

Leave!

This has disaster written all over it, for you and your child. Don't let it happen, get away from him and live your own life free from that waste of space.

Jesus Christ read your posts.
The man spat at you and verbally abused you every day?

Do you not think this abuse will escalate? Because it will.
Do you really want your child to grow up watching this, and learning to model that behaviour and abuse you too?

Its an unpopular opinion but you are very young and being totally honest I would be seriously reconsidering the pregnancy. It’s an awful awfulness situation to being a child into and I’d be very hesitant about tying myself to a man like this for 20+ years.

If you want to go ahead you should leave him immediately he sounds vile.