I did post this in mental health but the board isn't busy....can anyone help

[Imtryingveryhard]

Hi, I'm hoping to get some guidance/help regarding g some concerning behaviour from my mum. She has a tendency to be dramatic. We lived abroad and came back to the UK as mum missed her family. Within 6 months she had fallen out with everyone and over 25 years later has nothing t o do with her family. It was just her and my dad. He died several years ago and it's just been me and my sister looking after her. My sister and I don't get along for various reasons but that doesnt impact on our relationship with my mum. For some reason my mum has turned in my sister. As much as we don't get along i can't believe the things my mum is saying about my sister. It's got to the point that my mum believes my sister is trying to murder me for my mum's inheritence, my sister is completely money grabbing and that she is changing her will to cut my sister out. The vitriol I am hearing is awful as I wonder about her mental health. I've listened to messages my sister has left for my mum and is sounds like someone at the end of their tether with her. My sister believes my mum is an alcoholic and has mental health issues which I do agree with but what do I do. Mum is adamant she is fine, that my sister is a bitch and that life goes on. I think my mum needs help. It's got back to me that mum has posted worrying messages on Facebook regarding suicide but I don't know what I should do it who I need to approach to help. She has attempted to kill herself before and ended up in a mental health unit but is home now and is living by herself. I know this all sounds rambled but I've been blindsided by my mum's sudden hatred for my sister and her spitefulness in address ing this which I'm not used to.

If you have concerns that your mum could self harm would you feel,happy to,call,her GP or her mental,health worker.

Yes your mum sounds very unwell. Have you read up on the early signs of dementia?

I don't think she will self harm in the immediate future but I have thought about contacting her gp to discuss my concerns about her. She doesn't have a mental health worker. Once she was discharged from the secure unit that was it (or so she tells me). I agree she is very unwell. She doesn't agree though and that is the problem. She's destroyed her will so my sister won't get anything and handwritten a new one that is completely ineffective. She's completely irrational but sounds perfectly lucid when I speak to her. It's frightening.

Don't worry about the Will, a handwritten one with no witnesses or signatures is meaningless, the original one may,also,be with a solicitor,or bank. She sounds,unwell,at the moment, if you dont want to speak to her GP you can contact the local social services safeguarding team or Crisis mental health team. There will be a record of her previous mental health issues with her GP.

Why not speak to the charity Mind - www.mind.org.uk/information-support
They're experts and will be able to help signpost you to your local services. If your Mum has been in a secure unit before then it's quite likely that she's become very ill and posters upthread are right. You need to contact her GP or local mental health services to try to get her some support.
It's also worth suggesting that your sister doesn't try to visit your mum while she's so ill - just for her own protection? Hope that you get some support for her.

Thank you for all your suggestions, I appreciate them very much and I'm going to speak to someone today to see what help Mum Can Get.