So I managed to end a pretty rubbish relationship but nothing has improved.
Seeing as he's the father of my DD I now seem to feel like I'm in exactly the same position except from not living together. If I say the slightest thing wrong I get constant phone calls shouting down the phone calling me a shit mum threatening to post stuff about me on social media, all of this is done in front of his work colleagues or family but they all seem to just let him go on his rants (it honestly feels like he's got some sort of personality disorder sometimes you just can't get through to him). Even if I hang up on him he'll keep ringing or start texting and then I get worried that he'll turn up at the house. If we are arguing in person he will start recording me and then make fun of me when I stop talking or if I cry because he's been calling me every name under the sun he calls me attention seeking (likes to call me a whore, skank slut - even though I have never cheated and not spoke to or been with another man since we split up).
I did at one point tell him that he couldn't see DD because I had made arrangements and he decided two days before that he wanted her, I told him no because I've made arrangements you can't just click your fingers and have her and then he starts on me with the your trying to stop me seeing my daughter I'm going to post all over social media and I'm going to slit your tyres so you can't go anywhere with her (and eventually I cancelled my plans and let him have her so that I didn't have the embarrassment of it being broadcasted). After this incident I said I didn't feel comfortable him having her for more than a couple of hours on his own because of how angry he gets so quickly I just panic the whole time DD is on her own with him think that's just my anxiety from the relationship though. But he kicks off every time to have her we do things together with DD aswell which can sometimes go really well but can sometimes result in arguments.
I feel like he makes me seem like the bad person to everyone as he baits me into arguing with him in front of people and then starts asking them do you think this, or am I out of order? And try's to get them involved.
I suppose what I want to know is am I being unreasonable in the current situation I had planned to meet up with friends and was meant to be taking DD - one of them had a sore throat for past two days but feels 100% better today and I mentioned this to EP and said obviously I wouldn't let my friend breathe all over her I'm not stupid, he is now kicking off saying if I take her I'm a selfish mum and shouting down the phone at me saying he's going to message my friends or post on social media about how selfish I am and that I'm just as bad as his mum who was a drug addict that never did much for him so I can't see how he can dare compare me to that!
I don't even know if this whole post makes sense but it was good to get all of that off my chest! :)