Mother being rude or am I over sensitive?

[Pagan]

I've waxed lyrical about how wonderful she is on another thread but every so often she says something that I find really rude/offensive/irritating/incredible (delete as appropriate)

Latest this morning - having a nice phone conversation. My DH is away for the week and I'm joining him on Friday and she says "Oh do you trust him being away by himself?"

I said what a dreadful thing to say, of course I do and then she says that it was a joke but I just find that a bit much and in extreme bad taste.

Other comments made include ...

I'd better make ure I have his shirts ironed or he'll fling me out

He has precedent over car use as "it is his car" (it's the family car)

I meant about 10 kg about 1 1/2 to 2 stone!

This thread is very timely. MIL stayed the night last Sat so me and DH could go out (she's great in that way!). Following morning, DH started trying to wind me up, in a jokey way knowing his mum was listening "Oh I suppose I'll have to iron my clothes today, it's really not on - the man of the house having to do this". He winked at me as he said it! His mum said "too right darling, you shouldn't have to do your own ironing, you never had to at home and your father never has".
This was said in front of my two DDs!. Unfortunately I rose to the bait and said to MIL I didn't want our DDs growing up thinking certain jobs are for women and certain jobs are for men, it should be shared. "Oh you are a funny girl", she said "with your wacky ideas"!
Soooo annnoying.

One of my 3 year old DDs was watching a small boys five-a-side football team in the park the other day and told MIL she wanted to join a football team when she was old enough - "You can't possibly do that dear, you're a girl, we'll give you ballet classes". It does piss me off.

Sandyballs, your wacky ideas are doing my head in. I'm rushing off to turn the iron on immediately so that DD's ballet dress and DS's football outfit are immaculate. Pass the gin...

LOL at this thread! I hadn't realised just how many mothers are obsessed with the concept of shirt-ironing.

Tanzie - We really must be MN twins.

Wow! What a response - Ghosty our mothers must be one in the same . Aside from the looking after DH, when DD came along she would ring with droplets of wisdom ....

on a cold day and remind me to put a hat on her if I was going out

on a hot day to put sunscreen on (this from the woman who used to put factor 3 on me in morning to last me all day and only ever did my shoulders)

My mum has never, EVER, got over the fact that my DP changes nappies. In her eyes, that makes him New Man Itself.

His mum too, come to that.

My mother was dreadfully shocked to see dp doing his own ironing, it almost killed her when she saw him go on to iron my work shirt!!!!! MI I've had the nappy change thing too, when we were about to go visit in-laws for the first time since dd was born, my mother took me aside and whispered, look don't make him change nappies in front of his mother or she'll be upset... make him??? He helped make her he doesn't need me to force him to help out with baby changing or bathing (I've not told her he bathes dd it would probably finish her off).

My mother was staying with us to "help" with the new baby, DD was 3.5 & DS1 just 2 years old. DH was working for a delivery company so could arrive home any time between 5 pm & not at all. Her comment, "don't you make him a meal when he comes home?" I was speechless! (That was 14 years ago & it still ranckles!)

Coppertop, please don't tell me you're from North London...!

I've just remembered.

Before ds came along, my dad rang me one Sunday afternoon. He asked what we were doing. I said

"I'm working (I was writing a training course at the time), and ds is doing the ironing".

My father spluttered, and said "You know, you are a lucky little b*stard"

Apparently, he seemed to think I should work all the hours god sent, and do the ironing as well. My father was never known to lift an iron in his life. He would occasionally hoover (in later life), but then told everyone he met over the next 3 weeks that he'd done the hoovering.

My Mum is always making offensive/irritating comments and seems not to realise she is doing it, her latest :- I've lost quite a bit of weight recently, and phoned her to tell her I'd just bought a pair of size 12, tight fitting jeans(I was a size 18-20),her comment,"Ooo, well they must be stretch"!!!