Weirdest conclusion to an online chat ever

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Been chatting to an okay guy for a few days, seemed really nice, tiny little bit of wariness when he suggested meeting up on Sunday when I was out with the kids for Mother’s Day. Tbf he suggested it before I mentioned the kids. But let that go as he didn’t push it.

Contacted him when I got back on the Sunday and he didn’t reply until the Monday saying he’d conked out after work, I replied a couple of hours later and. didn’t hear anything back.

I usually delete after a couple of days no contact but thought I’d message him tonight and what a mistake! He’d suddenly discovered he had a son he didn’t know about, which is obviously a massive shock for him and I was sympathetic to that. I wished him luck, didn’t really know what else to do?

He then accused me of not wanting to know him if he had a kid even though I did, and then messaging saying ha ha you will fall for anything, to my mind implying that he’s making it up?

Just so so bizarre and quite depressing, this is a guy who by his own admission works with vulnerable adults or children.

Obviously reported on the site, but I embrace my singledom tonight if that’s what’s out there.🙄

Twat. Next.

I met some real oddballs online dating.

You've dodged a bullet there, OP.

Could he have been putting you through some kind of weird test to see how you would react? He sounds like trouble and I would count yourself lucky that you found out now and not much further down the line - I personally would find it hard to believe him about the long lost son.

Weirdo. Block and move on!

Yes I did wonder that too, he went very quiet when I mentioned my kids, and suddenly had a random one. I have absolutely no problem with kids when I’m dating but his was a baby, which at 45 is a bit out of my comfort zone.

Perhaps he thought you were making up your kids to avoid seeing him so made one up himself?

Weird.

Jesus. Run very fast in the opposite direction.

On Mother’s Day? Hardly, what a strange comment, Frasier. Considering he was meant to be working on the Sunday it was weird he wanted to meet full stop. I took it with a pinch of salt.

My friends ex boyfriend lied about the same thing when they met up this year. Definitely some weird test.

I don’t think Frasier’s comment is strange??? You hadn’t mention your children until he suggested meeting up so he said he had one also as he was annoyed. Not sure what MothersDay has got to do with it.

Why hadn’t you mentioned your children until Mother’s Day? You’ve done virtually what he has.
Sounds like too much hassle all round

he could be making up his position or inflating it. there were carers who turned out abusive. id not believe anything until i see proof.
block and move on. online dating sucks. full of lies.

Yeah I kind of agree with Frasier, it sounds from your post that the first time you mentioned having kids was after he asked to meet up with you. Maybe he thought you were making up an excuse not to meet him? Then he decided to do the same back to you when you messaged him.

I’m not suggesting that that’s a normal response btw op, just that I think you were harsh on Frasier.

"You are very strange. Goodbye." BLOCK

I agree with PPs. It was a revenge lampoon. A lucky early bin for you!

On to the next one.

Hang on a minute, this man is a total stranger (as well as an oddball) and you'd be perfectly entitled to find out he'd got a baby and choose to walk away. Equally you've never met this man and you don't have to disclose your entire life, including DC's. You'd never even clapped eyes on him. Block and walk away, he sounds odd

As for mother's day, even if you didn't have DC's, you may have had your own mother you'd wanted to see and spend time with.

Run!!!!

What?! It's generally advised on here not to tell anyone you have kids until just before you meet? Apparently to make sure you don't attract the "wrong" type of people. Anyway sounds like he "retailiated" to it. So you didn't say you had any then randomly came up with it so he done the same? Either way sounds all very on. Block and move on.

Don't most dating sites have a section on your profile to say has kids/live with me/don't live with me?

So if you'd filled that out he would've seen it, or did you not have this option OP?

I agree with @frasier I think it was a sarcastic jab at you, because you rejected his request to meet with you.

Move on, if you think that's the case, as it's a childish kind of behaviour and a nasty jab.

Iike i said people on here advise you leave that part blank (about having kids) or say you don't so you don't attract the "wrong" type of people. Did you say on your profile you had kids op? I definitely think he was being sarcastic because you wasn't upfront with him.

TheNaze73 I certainly wouldn't advertise the fact I had children to strangers on the internet, especially if they were younger than mid teens. If I met and liked someone I wanted to date then I would tell them but I'd never show it on a profile to strangers

It's just clicked! Him "suddenly" finding out he has a kid is obviously a dig at you for not telling him straight away like you "suddenly" found out, as in you knew all along and didn't tell him.