NC with MIL

[JuJu2017]

Hi, sorry, this is another MIL post but I don’t know what to do! After years and years of having to cope with a selfish MIL that favours my SIL and doesn’t care about my DH or my husband, I feel like I’m about to snap. She literally doesn’t give a crap about any of us unless we are giving her something and I don’t think shed actually care if we did go NC ... When did other people feel they needed to go NC and what happened after?

Sorry what’s NC ?

No Contact.

Thanks

I went NC with my mil. She was so awful when I had my dd2 that I couldn't stand the mind games any more. She did not even get my baby daughter a card nor small gift. This was because she wanted me to worry about what I had done wrong. There was far, far more than this. She then sent my new daughter £1 through the post in small change, yes really, because my dh asked her why she had not even got a card. That was 27 years ago and I have not met with her since. I have never, ever regretted it.

My dd's had some later contact with her, but she pretended she could not remember my dd2's name and was so rude to them that they actually got up and left on one occasion. Fortunately dd2 finds it quite funny but that is a credit to her. Ridiculous really because she was such a lovely, loving little girl so her loss not ours. She only really wanted contact with dd1 and I was not prepared to split my daughters up for her.

It will cause ructions in the family but if as you say she barely bothers with you anyway, go ahead and get on with your life.

When you say “doesn’t give a crap” what do you mean? How does she favour SIL?
Going NC is a pretty extreme move

Also going NC is only ok if you DH is on the same page, if he still wants to continue to see his mum and wants the DC to spend time with her how will that work? Speaking from experience it can cause huge problems in your relationship if it’s only you that feels this way.

If you both can’t stand her and don’t want to see her then you have to agree how you’ll deal with it

She rarely sees us but she’s constantly at my SIL’s house, she won’t take my children anywhere or even offer to have them but we frequently run into her at my husbands grandparents house and she’s got my sil’s kids with her. When I was pregnant and diagnosed with pre eclampsia she couldn’t have my daughter while I was in and just said to my husband I shouldn’t have any more kids (no worry or sympathy or anything). She didn’t get my newborn any gifts when he was born or come to the hospital after the birth but she plastered photos of my nephew all over fb when he was born three months earlier ... this list goes on and on. She is not interested in us but the minut she wants some money she’ll be on the phone. If my husband doesn’t phone her she won’t phone us. I do feel like the contact is so minimum going NC wouldn’t really matter to her too much or cause trouble. She probably wouldn’t notice unless we said something to her.

You need to block her. And so does dh. Bank closed also.
Block them all on fb and enjoy a quiet life.