Some perspective please......I’m not a moron!

[Notsleptin2wholegoddamnyears]

This is probably going to sound really silly but there is a big back story to this, along the lines of my OH is an insecure, jealous, lying, manipulative individual! Massive trust issues on my part not his, I have never lied to him or done anything to make him doubt me.
So I was putting LO to bed tonight and I called down if I could have my phone, stood at the top of the stairs waiting for him to pass it to me....he took ages, shouted again and he said ‘you want your phone now?’ Yes please, as I wouldn’t have asked for it 🤔 he finally gave me my phone and it was disabled (iPhone) he had clearly been trying to get into my phone, I asked outright why he was trying to get into my phone, said he hadnt, he clearly was as he had disabled it and was trying to buy time before passing it to me. I’ve asked him again since and he’s denying, basically making me out to be crazy, starting shit! I’m not bloody mental, I know you have to put the wrong code in up to 10 times for it to disable.
Sick of being made out to be unreasonable when I know facts. He will also say things during arguments to get a reaction out of me but then point blank deny ever saying them. It’s exhausting and he’s shady!
I’m thinking gaslighting? Or am I being mental?

I definitely need some councilling, I’ve been thinking this today, I need someone impartial to talk to.

I can totally understand how frustrating the lies are. My husband once took £100 from my account using my card at the cashpoint. He denied and denied it but I knew it was him. I eventually told him that I had called the bank and they had asked me to go in to view the CCTV of the machine in question to see if I could recognise who had used my card. Ironically this was a lie but it was the only way I could get the truth. Suddenly he remembered he'd taken it, just very casual, no apology, just said he'd forgotten. I truly believe that he actually believed his own lies as he lied so much. We split in January after 24 years and have two dc's who are 12 and 15. Do it now whilst your son is young and the impact will be felt less. It has absolutely devastated my dc's, don't waste your life, live it in the happiest way you can and that doesn't sound as though it's with this guy.

Why are you wasting so much time and energy on him? Focus on yourself. He is a grown man and it his responsibility to deal with his shit. Why are you making it your problem? Preserve your strength for starting out fresh on your own.

Just wanted to say I once had a very similar situation in which my partner was convinced I’d been trying to access his phone when I brought it up to bed for him as it had been disabled. We argued for ages with me denying it but unable to explain how it had happened (I even started to doubt myself) and him getting more and more annoyed that I wouldn’t own up... turns out I’d carried the phone with my thumb on the fingerprint reader and it had read my print repeatedly, not recognised it and locked the phone. This was Samsung but maybe the same thing happened?

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I completely understand that these things happen but given his past behaviour and the way he was stalling giving me my phone, I have no doubt that he was panicking and trying to buy time.
The issue isn’t even really the phone, I have nothing to hide, it’s the blatant deceit and trying to make me out to be unreasonable.