Just need a handhold post divorce

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Hi,
Am 18 months divorced from a very difficult and abusive man.
We have DC 7 and 11, and he makes everything as difficult as possible. Is extremely tight with money. Refusing to contribute to overnight school trips, new uniforms, kit for 'big school' etc. music / sports lessons. He wasn't paying so I signed up to CMS and he's still livid about it.
He says the £30 pw per child is all I'll ever see, and if they can't go on trips it's my fault for leaving and buying another house - .."houses are expensive, you know..."
He's a wanker. I supported him when we were married. He hates working.
He told the children not to mention my name in his (the old family) home ever again.
Mother's Day - no card, present reminder or faciliation and he stopped them from even phoning me.
Am really sad today.

I can understand you are sad, but honestly you can be really glad you don't have to live with the little shit. At least you now have chance for real happiness in the future. Well done on doing it. Carry on parenting as you should, it will work out in your favour.

Sounds like you are doing really well. Change is hard. Even when you know it is the right thing to do. The upheaval is a massive thing to deal with. Take each day as it comes

Get support from friends and professionals if you think it will help you. Keep talking. It does gets easier.

Hopefully he will have less to do with the children as time goes on. It doesn't sound like it is a good environment for them. Keep notes and get a good solicitor.

You will get through this