I know that I am to some degree... but I would appreciate your opinions. To give you a bit of background, it is my 40th this summer. I also have progressive multiple sclerosis with mobility problems (I use crutches, a scooter and/or a wheelchair). Fatigue is also a massive part of it and I am in the middle of applying for ill health retirement. When discussing my 40th over the years, I said i would love to go to a country hotel/cottage with the family somewhere in the UK - easy to get too, a good chance to chill out. I can't dance so party is out and I not one for a 'big' celebration. DH has an opportunity to work abroad around my birthday (which he has committed to) and has said he would like for me to join him so that we can celebrate outside of the UK. Don't get me wrong, I love travelling and seeing new places. However, my illness makes travelling tricky, it takes days to recover and the heat (this country will be roasting in August) affects me badly. But I said ok as it is a good opportunity to go away and see somewhere new.
In addition to this, it is my FIL's 70th a few days before my birthday. We have already said that we would go away in May for a week so that he can have a celebration with his kids and grandkids. This would again be in Europe as his daughter and her kids don't live in the UK, so we would go out there. He then is having a party at home 2 days before my 40th with all his local friends were we live - his daughter will be coming home for that too.
I truly appreciate DH wanting to take me abroad but I have to admit that I feel frustrated too. I am jealous FIL will have his week abroad and a party (which of course we will have to go to) so that I can't have a '40th weekend'. I don't want a party, I just don't want to be too exhausted for going away and want to spend the weekend with my kids, as they won't be coming away with us for my birthday. DH said I sound like a jealous child and that I'm ungrateful for him taking me away. Thoughts? Please be honest, I can take it!