Disappointed with old friend

[CocoaZut]

Hi
Just come to the realisation that it is time to my change fly paper. I have a friend that have known for 25 years and who only calls when she needs to vent or has angle. She has recently broken up from her partner and basically her other friends have taken his side. And I am feeling the same because ultimately I don't think she has been there for me snd basically I am fed up being the therapist. Should I say something or let it die a natural death?

I’m sorry your friend is a taker
I have one I posted my story in here and got bashed that it’s my own fault as I allow her to use me

People only treat us as we allow them to do basically picture can you be happy without her friendship ?
What’s she bringing to your life ?

Sometimes it’s bettwr to feel alone than to be used xx

I hear you. I realised that a close friend was just a user about 6 months ago. I'd held her hand so many times through her abusive relationship, then after she left him she'd still phone me up to whinge about other stuff and it was all me-me-me.

I went to stay with her and was going through a bad time and she didn't want to know. I had an ephiphany when we went out one night and she was being arsey, that she was entirely selfish and lacked any empathy.

Since then I've barely been in touch but strangely I do miss the days when we got on better - before I had my 'ephiphany'. I can't un-have it now though!

To answer your question I'd not say anything. Just go quiet on her and if she asks decide whether she deserves (or can handle) the truth. Usually if you're honest with people about these things they don't like it and will turn on you!

I know what you mean about missing the pre-ephipany

Thank you ladies for your thoughts, it is time to let this friendship phase out. The ending of this friendship has given me insight to redefining my own boundaries as in the past I have been a people pleaser, and in the process not pleasing myself. Life is too short and you just want to have fun with friends.... and relationships are reciprocal. Have a great day😊