Ex's dog bit OW

[southernharp]

The title says it all really. The ex has a dog. I quite like him but he is pretty willful (dog not the ex). The dog bit his lady friend - stitches, the lot. So the ex has ditched the dog. But now I find out that the dog has been growling and snapping at my kids for months and that he bit a friend who came to play too. So dog bites a kid and ex does nothing. Dog bites former friend who was sleeping with my husband and ex takes action. Wtf???!

So your ex puts people in this order:
1 Current shag
2 Dog
3 His kids

Wow. That's shit.

OP - I know you are angry at your Ex, and especially given the OW being an old friend, but
I think, in this specific situation - you are projecting old hurts.
Dog has escalated and bit someone - so ex’s reaction is appropriate...
With previous growling, etc and NO biting - any good dog person would work with the dog to resolve/control behaviour.

So - no - I don’t think that OW is more important to him than kids...(I think, this is what you are implying)

I'm guessing you missed that the dog bit a child BEFORE the gf?

Yep. The dog bit a friend of my sons in the first week.

He should be put down. That's the ex not the dog.......

Nd I understand that the girlfriend was grabbing the dog under the chin the discipline him when he bit her.

A farming friend of mine with no kids has taken on the dog to try and sort him out. I went to see him yesterday. He seemed pretty relaxed and affectionate. I hope he can make it work.

Should've took action when snarling/barking at kids, definitely should've took action when biting child.

I'd have been furious if I were that kids mom.

I spoke to her yesterday and, yes, she is upset. She suffers with anxiety and didn't want to raise it.

There is nothing wrong with a dog growling. You shouldn’t punish a growl, it’s their way of warning. It’s better to have a growling dog than a dog which goes straight in and snaps

Dogs are like children in many ways. They can react to a change of circumstances and if there’s been a lot of change recently perhaps the dog is feeling unsettled?

I’m not excusing the attack. I just think soon as people hear a dog has bitten somebody they assume the dog is horrible and must be put down

But if a dog wants to be left alone, growls, and doesn’t get that time alone then snaps and bites somebody, I blame the person not the dog..

Sounds like the OP is blaming the person not the dog, too.

At least it was the OW who was bitten.

Disgraceful that your ex did nothing when his dog bite a child. I do suspect that I am not the only person on MN who has zero sympathy for the OW though.

Really hope dog settles into the new home and gets a second chance.

If the dog bit ow surely it needs antibiotics at the very least.

Seriously though grabbing a dog under the chin is grabbing it in its most vulnerable area. Think where do hunting dogs grab their prey. So she got what she asked for. I do hope the dog can ge5 through this and find a more suitable home.

Understand why you're annoyed OP.

Glad your son is ok and hope his friend not too badly hurt.

Sounds more like morons not having a clue about dog behaviour than screwy people priorities.

I'd be cross too but they are obviously clueless (she grabs a stressed dog who has already given plenty of very clear warnings? Dear god...) so it's plausible that they underestimated the growls, snaps and previous bite and thought they could "put it out of him", made it worse and this was the final straw.

The final straw could have been a bite to anyone and not because he rates OW higher than anyone else iykwim.

So glad the wee dog is with someone else. Hopefully the farmer knows what he is doing so the dog is never put in that situation and is labelled a "bad" dog due to human mishandling.

And I hope they never get another dog until they clue themselves up on dog training and behaviour. What could have been doesn't bear thinking about.

Seriously, I really am glad your son is ok.