Feeling rejected

[Mary1935]

I'm wondering how others would have handled this. I'm separated from my abusive ex and we have one son. Myself and ex both came from abusive pasts and I have had a lot of therapy to sort through my difficulties mainly in relationships. I find it hard to trust others.
We have no family support and when we where married we used to feel alone at times. I feel alone now at times -
My son is 8 - he has friends from school and from church. I encourage relationships and play dates. He does 2 activities each week - He is very sociable.

This weekend I was asked to look after one of his friends for the day, this got cancelled - I then arranged to go out in the morning with another friend - they cancelled - he was upset - but adjusted ok.
I then had a text from ex - stating a planned lunch meeting after church had been cancelled tomorrow - this family has 3.children whom my son gets alone with well & they enjoy his company. This is the 3rd time this particular family had cancelled - due to one thing or another.
Ex has now thrown a paddy - he's now leaving this church - wants nothing more to do with these people and has contacted the pastor to let him know.I'm mainly concerned re my son - this is the 3rd church ex has left for one reason or another. My son will lose these friends now.
It is disappointing to have been cancelled for the 3rd time and am wondering if others would feel rejected - Would you be upset if this had happened to you.
I myself can feel rejected at times. I don't know if my expectations of others are too high. I don't know if I'm explaining it clearly.
My parents didn't show any love and I was brought up in fear - I love my son and I try to be emotional healthy to him and protect him.
Thanks

Bump

Hi Mary - I really feel for you. I can't say I blame your ex for his reaction. Being cancelled on 3 x is a bit much. What have you actually lost? Wouldn't it be better to make some more reliable friends for you and your son? You absolutely sound like a great Mum and doing all that you can so don't be too harsh on yourself. Sending (((hugs))). x

Why do you have to leave the church just because your ex wants to?

Why does your son have to leave the church and his friends? Sorry but I didn't get that. The other cancellations are probably just coincidences, after all you were asked to look after one of his friends, it would be different if you were never asked and people never accepted to make plans in the first place, or just didn't respond. People fall ill or change plans without afterthought, so I think you need not to worry too much about being actively rejected.

I don't really understand this either. This dude sounds like a right drama queen. So what if he leaves the church. He's your ex. You don't need to. They may have cancelled for very good reasons. They clearly keep trying to reschedule so want you there.

Let him go all nuts. Do as he pleases. You don't have to do what your ex wants.

Hi all thanks a lot. I don't go to that church anymore - it was too difficult to be there with him. I'm not really a believer either. He takes my son 3 out of 4 Sundays - yes - he is a drama queen - he told the family in question he was disappointed this morning - all ok with that I suppose - he then gets a bee in his bonnet later in the day & tells them not to contact him again - that he's officially leaving the church.
He's like a dog with a bone - he can't let things go!!!
I just feel for my son - moving again to another church. Son is 8.
Thanks thirdtimelucky for your sympathy. and all others who respond & give me a sense of normality.

Maybe you could arrange that your son can keep his friends from the church anyway?