90% of the time, me and my wife are great together, yet once a month everything agitates her, especially me. We have been married over 8 years.
I did want to sound like a typical bloke accusing PMS as the issue, and usual put myself as the cause of the issue. But I started recording the dates when we argue, as they were rare but seemed to form a pattern. The last 4 arguments we have had seem to occur just before or the beginning of her menstrual cycle.
And during which, her anger will escalate to the point of breaking things or hitting me.
The most recent example, was a few days ago, my alarm set for 5.30 for work, disturbed her and that day she was cold. I thought that what triggered her to be silent with me, so I thought I let her cool off.
She then confronted me - saying do know how upset she is - I stopped work, and said no please tell - thinking it was something more drastic. She then states that the alarm is the issue, I apologise and stated I had no option due to the amount of work on. I said I would sleep separately.
She the freaks out, starts belittling me and I say this is uncalled for, and then she flips that evening and hits me, and then bring up that the anger issue seems to crop up around this time during the month and she hits me again and states that I'm sexist and misogynistic. I then try to leave and not get involved in the argument, and she blocks may way.
I say very politely to move, she refuses. I then squeezed past her, not wanting to confront and control my anger. So stay quiet.
She follows and hits me again.
I then just left the house, I come back and she's in bed and I decide to go to the office.
2 days later she is it speaking to me.
Online advise says I should leave, but I see this happening only for a few days, then rest of the month everything is fine.
How do I help her?