I’m debating closing the door on a relationship I have with a very good friend as a result of her boyfriend....they have split up more times than I’ve had hot dinners and I think it’s brought on mental illness to my friend and her DC have suffered because of it.....our whole group of friends really dislike him because he has treated our friend like shit tbh and has cheated on her multiple times but even before this we didnt like him because he was extremely controlling and tried to get our friend to cut us all out of her life......each time they split up we worry terribly about her....she stops eating, sleeping and becomes very withdrawn and I worry for her children to need a lot of support at the moment.
I decided to contact one of his exes to get my friend to see sense and I was shocked at what she told me....he is scary and a danger to my friends mental health and probably the children’s too....I’ve told my friend and she won’t listen....for weeks she lied about seeing her boyfriend knowing we’d be wrecked about the news....we can always tell the signs she completely withdraws from us and disappears....
She is never at home with her kids but off drinking with him most nights and they are suffering because of it....each time I approach this with her she gets angry:..I don’t think I can take the worry anymore.....we’ve been through this with her so many times that I can’t continue to be her emotional crutch.....I feel like an awful person but I feel like supporting her and listening to her facilitates their relationshp.....so utterly devastated but I’ve decided perhaps NC is best with her....my other friends have done this already....