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Family Money Update- I GOT THE JOB!

18 replies

happy2bhomely · 09/03/2018 17:31

An update for everyone who read and replied to my thread earlier.

I had the interview at Noon and she called me at 4 to tell me that I had the job! She interviewed 5 of us so I was sure I wouldn't get it.

She said she was so impressed with my interview that she has spoken to her general manager and she wanted to know if I would be interested in doing shifts on reception too! It's in a sports club. I've said that I am available evenings and weekends and I start tomorrow!

She said that a customer service qualification could be a possibility.

The kids are so excited for me. I am yet to tell DH. I intend telling him face to face so I can see his reaction.

I've also been researching where I stand financially. I have decided that for now, I am going to stop trying to convince DH to put the money in a joint account but encourage him to get it all into the bank in his name. I think this will reassure him that I don't want to spend it. At least this way, if we were to separate in the future, all money is visible even if it isn't in my name. From what I've read, it is irrelevant whose name it is in, they are considered joint assets and I would be entitled to at least 50% anyway.

I'm feeling positive and although it is only a small step, it is a step in the right direction.

Thank you again to everyone who contributed.

OP posts:
LaGattaNera · 09/03/2018 17:45

Well done Flowers

pog100 · 09/03/2018 17:46

Great update! I am pleased for you. You sound like you have a way ahead now and life will be good for you. You are still so young nad have achieved so much!

Cricrichan · 09/03/2018 17:50

Woo hoo. Well done!

MaybeDoctor · 09/03/2018 17:57

That’s great news. I read other thread.

Just to sound a note of caution, don’t be too expansive to your DH about plans for qualifications - in case he tries to throw a spanner in the works of this job.

‘Do, don’t ask’ is the motto, I’m afraid.

MyBrilliantDisguise · 09/03/2018 17:59

Congratulations!

I was surprised when you said you were renting, when he had such a stash of money. Is there a reason for that?

GeekyWombat · 09/03/2018 18:03

This is fantastic news! So very chuffed for you.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 09/03/2018 18:10

Can anyone link to the other thread please?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 09/03/2018 18:10

Congratulations on the new job OP - you must be chuffed!!!!

dementedpixie · 09/03/2018 18:12

So you will pay your wages into his account to which you have no access? I wouldn't do that tbh

dementedpixie · 09/03/2018 18:14

Is it the deleted thread?

soundsystem · 09/03/2018 18:25

Oh fantastic, congratulations! As you don't already have qualifications they should be able to make use of the apprentice levy for training, so hope you get to pursue the customer service course. Best of luck!

isseywithcats · 09/03/2018 18:53

agre with other people didnt read your other thread but get a bank account of your own to put your wages into as theres no garuntee you would have access to the money in his account, if you want to put money into his account set up a direct debit for some of it but dont give it all to him or you will feel like you are working for nothing which you will be

category12 · 09/03/2018 19:04

Congratulations Grin.

I think the long game, having sight of the money is probably wiser than trying to force the issue and him possibly starting to hide assets.

I hope he sees the sense in you skilling up and working as well, after all if something went wrong, like serious longterm illness, injury or death, you and the kids would be up shit creek in fairly short order. £50K wouldn't keep you afloat for long.

happy2bhomely · 09/03/2018 21:46

I won't be putting any of the money in the joint account. I told him he can have half my wages when I can half of his savings! I also said that when my savings reach the same level as his, then I will be happy to contribute to the joint account, but until then it is going in my savings account. He didn't argue.

He seems happy for me. He suggested he goes to work later than usual so that he can sort the kids and I can leave without having to worry. I said he can if he wants, but I have it covered.

‘Do, don’t ask’ is the motto, I’m afraid. I agree. I have spent too long asking (for reassurance, not permission) and it has given him the impression that he gets to decide. Less talking, more doing!

OP posts:
MrsMozart · 09/03/2018 21:49

Very well done!

MmeGuillotine · 09/03/2018 22:11

Congratulations! Star

afloat · 09/03/2018 22:31

That’s great. His reaction seems positive too and the job seems something that won’t just be stuck at cleaning. I’m happy for you!

EddyF · 09/03/2018 23:52

So happy for you. Well done getting the job. It's a massive achievement and confidence building.

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