Some good news for women who’ve been cheated on

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Apparently women who have been cheated on end up “winning at life”!

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/women-cheated-cheating-benefit-infidelity-mating-intelligence-awareness-a8246091.html

I failed to link that properly so I’ll try again www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/women-cheated-cheating-benefit-infidelity-mating-intelligence-awareness-a8246091.html

Well I see no evidence of any of that yet, but I can certainly hope! Thanks for linking. Nice to think there might be a silver lining.

I don’t know if it counts for men too, but certainly getting rid of the cheating partner would improve things somewhat I’d imagine.

According to Dr Craig Morris, one of the authors of the study

Oh FFS. MEN come up with a survey showing that if THEY cheat on women, it's good for the women.

Get a life.

Sorry "Get a Life" was directed to the study authors and not to the OP!

Although I do hope this is true... We don't "poach men" it could be the other way around too FFS

paper I got that, don’t worry

paper I got that, don’t worry

Pays to be extra careful especially on International Women's Day!

#BeforeYouAskItsNovember19th

I kinda think this has been true for me. I am much stronger person and I feel like my relationship now is healthier because I know iv been hurt before, I know I got through it and made it out the other side.
I know if it ever happened again I'd be ok!
I'm sure I'm not explaining myself very well.
Of course I'm certainly not ever sitting waiting for my husband to cheat on me but I'm more secure in the knowledge that if anything did ever happen iv already been through the worst and survived.

Bit rich niteandfog when you've had umpteen threads on here about YOUR affair with a married man when you're married yourself

As a man whose ex cheated on him I came out if it stonger, happier and more successful. It was painful at the time but it forced me to re-evaluate my priorities. Success is the best revenge. Get out there and make your life better every day.

Well I've been cheated on more than once, and those are just the times I know about.

I'm certainly not winning at life. In fact I spend a reasonable amount of time feeling quite anxious at how much of it I've got left to endure, if I'm honest with you.

Oh and that's not because I'm miserable and don't put myself out there - I absolutely have and I've done some fab things over tha past few years I wouldn't have done if I'd still been married, but despite my efforts, I'm barely survivng life, let alone winning at it.

Oh no PJs that’s not good! I’m also struggling, a discovery of cheating shocks you to the core. I’m not sure I’m going to be able to trust anyone again.

PJs - I think you have a similar view to me. A couple of weeks ago, I mentioned to somebody that I "tolerate" life. Apparently, that's not a healthy view....

As for the cheating, it's happened to me on a number of occasions. Not convinced I can look back on it and see it as a positive thing.

@Smeaton They give the rest of us decent women a bad name!! We're not all cheats, honest!!

@ShatnersWig that's exactly about being "poached"

I haven't seen that yet.

My ex cheated on me and married her. I'm still single and alone.