First Date

[Thenewphaseofmylife]

Eeeek! I have my first date after splitting from husband last year. So this is my first first date in 23 years!!!!!

He has asked me out for lunch and see what happens from there.

What does a lunch date mean? What do I wear? I can't really get tipsy at lunch like you could at dinner to ease the nerves.

Any sage advice oh lovely mumsnetters. I'm totally freaking out.

Where do you know him from? Is it IRL or old?? I wouldn't recommend getting tipsy on a first date anyway.

Lunch date is better in my opinion, it's more casual and like you say, no pressure to drink (though I know a glass of wine can help with nerves!)

I'd look at it in a positive way, it's more casual, less pressure. If it's going really well then no pressure to leave as won't be late at night. It will be quieter, less busy than a night so you should be able to hear each other in conversation well. Also to me, I can't describe what I mean but I think it just feels much safer in the day time. Much more relaxed. And you get the date over with quicker! If you are a worrier, least you won't be spending all day worrying about it.

As a lunch date, you wear something more causal. Maybe some nice jeans and a floaty top or something?

Aww good luck :-) I love day time dates :-) not that I go on any anymore but still..... :-)

Eeek!

Kitty yes OLD and yes the booze is for nerves but I'm sure you are right it's probably better not to

Bitzy. Great wise words and yes all good points especially about the hearing one!!! I do feel a bit less freaked out now! I guess night time is like wearing black, makes me feel safe and less visible!

Well I'd just wear whatever makes you feel comfortable, that's the key. If you wear something you aren't sure about, the nerves are just going to build up more. If you want to wear all black then wear it. I'm sure you will still look lovely whatever you wear.

I think it says a lot for him to suggest a day date too. Clearly drinking and going on a night out isn't important to him. Maybe he's suggested a day date as his thinking is it will be quieter and you can get to know each other better. Sounds like a gentleman to me :-) x

No advice but just wanted to join you as I have a date tomorrow - I've been single 6 years and this is my first date lol I do know the guy but I was a lot slimmer when we actually met many years ago and haven't seen each other since!

Trip. Good luck for tomorrow. Come back and let me known how it went and any tips for me!