Friendship

[Kate010377]

I worked with a colleague for 16 years during which time we built up a friendship. A few years ago the work colleague met a new partner and had a baby at which point her attitude towards me changed and our friendship seemed to go downhill. The colleague came back to work from maternity leave but has now decided to leave the company we both work for and pursue a role at another organisation. She left just over a month ago and since then has not been in touch with me at all. Should i assume that our friendship is at an end and move on?

Yes. Circumstances change and people do to. Most friendships don't last forever.

Yes, but try not to take it personally. It's so hard to maintain work friendships when you no longer work together.
I worked with a great group of people for about 4 years (10 years ago) and at the time we were all in our 20s and didn't have children. When we all gradually found new jobs, we stayed in touch for a few years, but it's definitely become harder since having children. I'd love to see my old work colleagues occasionally, but simply don't have the time to maintain all friendships alongside the all the new ones which inevitably come with having children. Do you live close to each other? If not, I'd say it's just too hard for your friend to keep up the friendship, even though she may like you a lot.

Thanks for the advice. Guess i need to move on and build new friendships