Getting over unrequited love

[WorkingOnItNow]

Thats it really how do you get over it and how long does it take? Please tell me its possible to move on in time and that its possible to love someone else this much but be loved back this much too :(

Hi. So sorry you are feeling sad. It's a cliche but time is a great healer. Don't dwell on him/her and do something else to occupy your mind. Maybe some casual dating? Sorry not very helpful. x

Worst feeling bi the world. I think acceptance is key accepting it will never be. Grieve that, don't hold out hope or think about what could have been. Your life will go on a seat you will be happy again. This person wasn't for you xx

Thanks for the replies its still so raw and I suppose I'm just feeling bewildered that Ill never get my Hollywood movie ending. life really can be shit cant it

I remember getting my heart broken and feeling as you describe. In time I met someone that makes me so much happier and is a wonderful person . Take some time out to do good things for you. Live your life and see what comes your way. I really recommend after heartbreak taking time to heal and build yourself up before even thinking of meeting anyone. You are in the eye of the storm, but it passes x

In my experience it takes me about 6 months :(. I’ve been unlucky in love in the past too so much that I find it hard to trust , even though I’m into a four year relationship now.My first marriage took me a year after until I started to feel better. I changed my looks as I never wore make up or grew my hair before, I got self confidence back when others found me attractive it gave me a boost.
Much love xx

I think one of the big issues for me is the tendency to romanticise what that individual is really like. Unless this is someone you are very good friends with the chances are you are responding to an image that they are presenting to the world You are filling in the details that you don’t know and potentially omitting the nitty gritty details about them that make them human ( and possibly irritating to live with). It might be prudent to avoid seeing them, however casual or innocent that contact is , although I expect every bone in your body wants to be in their orbit. Can I ask though how do you know it’s unreciprocated??

Sorry I’m assuming you didn’t have a romantic relationship with them.

It wasn't a romantic relationship we were friends but we kissed one night out. i thought she really wanted me but the next day it was apparent that she had made a mistake. i was devastated but cant help thinking about what could have been. replaying the kiss in my mind isnt helping but i cant stop. this was about two months ago.

Feel for you....I'm going through a similar situation at the moment and it's horrible. Its made worse by the fact that I continue to see him even tho I know he doesn't feel the same.
I know only I can stop the situation but still I carry on bcoz I feel like I can't give him up.

SpiritedLondon

Couldn't have put it better myself.