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Tinder Match Won't Meet

18 replies

mooneus · 06/03/2018 22:21

Just before Christmas I matched with a guy on Tinder and we really got on and eventually swapped numbers. It turns out he wasn't from my area but was there that day for a job interview, he was lucky to be offered the job and started his role at the beginning of February.

All that time we had been in contact and were looking forward to meeting when he got here. However its a month later and we are yet to meet. The first time we arranged to meet he said he had to go back to his family home for an emergency - benefit of the doubt given.

We arranged to meet last week and he said he slipped on some ice, fell on a curb and fractured his coccyx, so had to cancel our meet up.

I can't work this guy out. Have we just been unfortunate or is he just not that interested? When we are in contact he is really flirty and says all the right things. Then there are times when I hear nothing from him for days and then he will contact me when I'm not expecting it. He even called me when he was drunk before.

In our last message after his 'accident' he said he feels like we are destined not to meet. I don't know if that was a sign and he was trying to letting me down gently.

I really can't work him out. My friends have advised me to play it cool, but it's driving me crazy. I haven't met him yet but I already like him a lot and really want it to work out

Any advice ?

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 06/03/2018 22:24

Advice ? You really asked for advice about this ?

He's married and is just playing with you.

Justmuddlingalong · 06/03/2018 22:24

His ego is being massaged. He doesn't need to meet you. He's getting what he wants by you hanging on. Move on.

titchy · 06/03/2018 22:26

You're wank fodder. Please get some more common sense before the next swipe right.

NorksAreMessy · 06/03/2018 22:28

Marriiiiiieeeeeed

Notsooriginalwerther · 06/03/2018 22:28

Have you seen him like FaceTime or Snapchat or anything? Could he be lying about or embellishing his appearance? Possibly cat fishing you? If not and you have seen him in other ways then he could possibly have a partner or wife and doesn’t want to meet but loves the thrill of having someone to chat to whenever he please because you’re awaiting his contact.

NorksAreMessy · 06/03/2018 22:28

...and a wankpuffin

Mumtobeluc · 06/03/2018 22:31

He could have serve anxiety. I struggled to meet up with my now fiance and we now have a baby on the way.

Don't assume the worst. He might be like me and be worrying you won't like him in person. Don't send him naked pics or anything to be sure though.

Meeting my partner off tinder seems crazy when I look back on it.
He could be worth it so don't assume the worst just yet

I worry that he doesn't talk to you most days though, that's odd.

NotLinkedInSnowedIn · 06/03/2018 22:32

Ive done lots of internet dating and weirdness is not always because they're married. Sometimes they've no teeth. True story.

NorksAreMessy · 06/03/2018 22:37

No ACTUAL teeth snowed ? Not metaphorical teeth?

Notsooriginalwerther · 06/03/2018 22:38

Please do explain NotLinkedInSnowedIn

NotLinkedInSnowedIn · 06/03/2018 22:39

Well the one beside his two front teeth was missing. Just a gap!! Right there at the front. I was shocked. He talked about getting fixed when he could afford it but bloody hell, Id have prioritised that. He was a character. I liked him. But I couldnt fancy him.

Pointlessfacts · 06/03/2018 22:39

I'd have sacked this guy off after the first cancellation.

I don't give second chances

Angelf1sh · 06/03/2018 22:40

He’s not interested. Cut your losses now.

Misericord · 06/03/2018 22:41

Catfish

Dontletthebastardsgrindyoudown · 06/03/2018 22:42

So he's in your area now as he's started his new job, or the job wasn't in your area just the interview?

FrancisUnderwood · 06/03/2018 22:43

Totally agree with PP, Married, having his ego massaged by you, you're a distraction.

Also, Tinder is scraping the barrel a bit.

kittensinmydinner1 · 06/03/2018 22:52

Because he's not actually fit, forty something 'Josh' a 'sky diving instructor with a 2 kids he sees EOW and a great relationship with his ex'... he is clinically obese Adolf, who lives with his mum and 4 cats.. and likes to be called Maureen at weekends. - and he's afraid that a real life meet up may cause you to notice some glaring inconsistencies in his story. 😂

ThisLittleKitty · 06/03/2018 23:02

What happened to his teeth, why was it missing? sorry I'm nosey?!

We arranged to meet last week and he said he slipped on some ice, fell on a curb and fractured his coccyx, so had to cancel our meet up.

My sister just lied about this to get out of work so although it possible it strikes me as a lie for that reason. He's probably married and bored.

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