Other half cheating

[Lifesaheadache]

First time posting.
Just found out that my OH is shagging some tart. Not the first time. Checked messenger and he had bought viagra from a mate, checked his work bag and found it. Looked at his browser history and he has booked a spa break for two.
I want to kick him out. Hate the bastard.
We are not married, I am a sahm with two kiddies. Going to sort cv out and apply for jobs. Should I keep quiet until I am more sorted.
Any advice please.

Take the vibrator and hide it / give it to a friend to look after.
What's he going to do - ask you for it?

Or serve it to him as dessert one evening, with 🍩🍩🍩 stacked on it....

Wow so sorry to hear this. My advice would be take the high ground, you've decided he's gone which is a decision only you can make. In terms of turning up at the spa and any other antics to cause him the same pain you must be feeling just remember you have kids together. Also all the shouting, anger and surprises in the world won't hurt him as much as seeing his wife just taking care of business and acting like she doesn't care when you tell him to leave.

As you've been so unhappy, you could say you want to end it because you've just been feeling that you're not happy, you feel compromised in the relationship which has become dull because he's not good company. You just feel that there's more out there, either the freedom that comes from being single, or to be valued by a man you can engage with intellectually. Tell him that you don't feel that you're meeting your full potential as the honest, intelligent, generous, curious person you are in this relationship that you settled for. I wouldn't even flatter him letting him know that it's over because his cheating was the line in the sand. let him know that that crappy self he presents to you is the line in the sand.

I am going to start job hunting, will get legal advice and will log all evidence. Once I’m in a better position I can then tell him it’s over.

I’m 50 this year and would like to have a new start. I will focus on that.

Thank you all for your replies. I appreciate it.