Hi,
I have been dating my partner for nearly 3.5 years. For the last year I have been really ready to move in with him as I've been staying at his on average 6 nights a week, spent 3 weeks there at Christmas and have felt really happy. It has seemed silly my house sitting there empty.
He has two boys 5 and 7 who I get on great with, they don't live with him full time but stay 1/2 nights a week each weekend and extra in the holidays.
We had spoken about me moving in for a long time, he knew I was ready but I know he was nervous about it, our whole relationship has gone gradually, I didn't meet his children until we had been together around 8 months, I used to stay 2/3 nights a week then over time it evolved to get to me been there pretty much all the time. We have been on holidays together with and without the children. It feels like we are pretty much already a family.
A couple of weeks ago he finally asked me to move into his! I am not going to sell my house, I'm going to be letting it out. It's only 15 minutes down the road from my house and where my parents live. So I'm not moving far or away from friends, family, work etc but I'm surprised at how emotional/nervous I feel mixed in with excited!
We have spoken honestly about it and he has admitted he is also scared. He had a bad experience with his ex (mum of his children) and living together wasn't good and he's scared it will change us. He has lived alone for 4 years now (although I have been there a lot the last two years!) so is a little worried about loosing his independence. He also wants to be able to have his children extra days/nights when he wants to and worries I suddenly won't want that. I've said I'm nervous too because I really want it to feel like my home and I want him to be excited.
He said he is excited and he knows its the right thing and there isn't anything wrong with been a bit scared. I'm glad we have been honest with each other but I just wanted to know is this normal?! We have a great relationship, I just didn't expect to feel this nervous and emotional about moving in when in essence all that is changing is I'm letting out my house as I've pretty much been living at his for a while anyway!
Has anyone got any tips on moving in with their partner?
How to make the transition work and for us both to feel we still have our independence?
How to make sure our relationship doesn't loose its spark?
Any tips at all would help as I'm freaking out a little!!