Really starting to worry about myself

[Jstorm77]

I posted here a couple of weeks ago about my boyfriend suddenly ending things with me. I got some good advice and I've tried the usual things like keeping busy and talking to friends but I am so terribly unhappy and upset that I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like such a dick. I miss him so much and my heart feels like it's breaking. It's dawned on me that I have pretty much been alone since I was 22. My exhusband worked overseas so we spent very little time together and when we did he was awful. I feel so alone. I am ok through the day but the evenings are awful, I just wish everything was different. I wish I never met him then I would never have felt like this now.

I don't think I saw your previous thread but didn't want to read and run. Breakups are awful, no two ways about it. Unfortunately there's no magic bullet, just distraction and time.

Thank you RainyApril for replying to me. My feelings have completely taken me by surprise, I feel totally overwhelmed by them.

It's perfectly normal to feel heartbroken after a relationship ends, and you need some time to grieve over it before you are ready to move on.
Have a good cry, listen to sad songs, watch weepy movies and have a good wallow to get it out of your system. Then use the time on your own to work out what went wrong, or whether you are following a pattern of picking unsuitable partners. Learn to be happy with your own company, love yourself, work out what your own needs are, so that when you are ready to start a new relationship you can be strong and positive and choose a good partner.
The unhappiness won't last forever - each week that passes will diminsh the sense of loss and bring you nearer to your happier future. One day you will look back and wonder what you ever saw in the chap! Sending a hug.

Did not want to read and run, Jstorm

You sound really down. Sorry that he left you. Did he give you reasons why? Not that it is necessarily helpful to hear his story, but sometimes it gives you insight.

Hope there is someone you can talk to in real life.