Do i believe him?

[RupertP9]

Hello All,

I need some advice. My boyfriend of 6 years (We have a 2 year old and mortgage) went on a lads night at the weekend (just him and his best mate) they ended up going back to his mates house where his mates wife was there having drinks with her friend (female) so the four of them continued drinking until the early hours 6am. That's the latest he's ever stayed out drinking and he was very coy the next day so I checked his messages while he slept. He was texting his friend at 6:15am (so as soon as he got in) asking for his wife's friends number and that he couldn't stop thinking about her and was horny 😷. His friend fobbed him off saying he was in bed trying to sleep but my boyfriend text him again saying come on just tell me where she lives im gonna sneak out. Iv obviously confronted him and he has said it was all 'drunken banter' and he would never have gone through with it bla bla bla. Said he loves me I'm his world and he loves our little family. I believe that he meant that last bit but I also believe that if his friend would have passed on the number or gave the girls address that he would have indeed snook out.
I can't imagine my life without this man and the thought of it terrifys me as I'm a stay at home mum with zero income. If I let this slide how do I get over it? Iv already got insecurities about my weight after pregnancy and this other girl in my opinion is slimmer than me and quite attractive she's really confident too so now my insecurities are sky high.
Has anyone else been in a situation like this or can anyone offer some advice?

Not sure about the joint bank account but no, you're not entitled to anything from the house. Which does mean that the mortgage is his problem if you move out. 💐

I would definitely go to your mum's. What a dick he is.

Go stay with your Mum
He's a knob

Assuming you're not married then you're unlikely to be legally entitled to anything if its not in joint names.

Doesn't matter how drunk he was. It still shouldn't happen. If he does this now and gets away with it consequence free, what's he going to be like in another 6 years when you're older and possibly fatter? (I know I am!) I wouldn't keep it from your dad either - keeping his sordid actions secret for him won't do you any favors in the long run. Maybe it would make him think twice in the future if he knows other ppl are also 'watching'. Although tbh, if I were you I'd try and get up the courage to leave the twat, now you know how much he is willing to disrespect you and your DC.

Do i have any rights to anything?

In essence no you don't. The only right will be child maintenance and that will depend on the number of nights the child is with you compared with the dad.

But agree with others. If he is doing it now you can be sure he will in future when the chance arises. Trying to stop him going out is a waste of time

He sounds awfull. Going to your mums to think things through sounds like a good idea.

Re your entitlements remember regardless of your not being married he would still nedd to pay child support.

A friend of mine was in a similar situation re mortgage and I remember she was entitled to something but dont recall how. Check out this article which alludes to the possibility.
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/money/2010/jun/20/mortgage-warning-unmarried-couples

If you decide to go back for financial ressons do so with a plan of how you can be more independent should you need to leave going forward.

Don’t let this slide. He wasn’t joking, you don’t text that sort of thing as a joke hours later and wake everybody up. If you think it’s funny, you say it at the time. He wanted her number. Gather your dignity and end it. I’d move what you can out of the joint account first and then speak to a solicitor to see if you have any rights to the house/contents. Whether you do will be specific to your circumstances and none of us can help you with that. Good luck.

Creep! That's not the first time he's done something like that OP, his attitude says it all; he's a cheat, you caught him this time, do the right thing by you and get rid of him; he is a sleazy, creepy git who has no respect for you and by the sounds of it women in general.

Just remind yourself you are not in a competition for this man.Value yourself, if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself not to try and keep him.
You may have lost confidence after having a baby but you can rebuild it.