Hi everyone!
I'm 24 and not a mum at all, but looking for some completely objective advice from people with a little more life experience.
I have been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for about six years. In many ways, we have what might be perceived from the outside as a "perfect" relationship - he's very good looking, smart and successful, we have everything in common, trust each other completely and have a lot of fun together. We even survived 4 years of long distance without breaking a sweat.
HOWEVER: we took a small break last year, and I had a fling with another guy. I was shocked by how much I enjoyed sex with him. I had never LOVED sex with my long-term boyfriend but often assumed it was something to do with my body/a low sex drive. I now know this wasn't the case at all and suspect that he and I simply aren't very sexually compatible. I definitely think he is very goodlooking and he is generous and gentle in bed BUT i just don't feel turned on by him.
My question to mumsnetters is: is sex important enough to justify throwing away an otherwise perfect relationship?? I trust him completely and feel he understands me in a way no one else does. I see so many other adult relationships ending in disaster and wonder if I would painfully regret losing him. On the other hand, sex is important to me and it seems sad to lose that part of myself. What should I do??