Is this inappropriate behaviour

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Hi

Just want to hear your opinions on a recent predicament I found myself in.

If your boss (now ex-boss, but not because of this) who you are friendly with asked you to apply cream to his back (voltarol type stuff for muscle aches) would you think it was
A) completely inappropriate but harmless
B) a come on/flirtatious gesture

I have no idea but did it anyway & instantly regretted it. I’m a people pleaser by nature & don’t like saying ‘no’ to people....

Thanks in advance

A massive turn off more than anything. What was he thinking?!

He's either weird or a sleaze.

I'm wonderimg what sort of work environments people consider this acceptable. I work in a professional office based role ... I just don't see where this cream rubbing would take place.

Furthermore as someone who works in HR..much a female employee reported this...the male colleague would be facing disciplinary action in my organisation.

It puts them in a position where it's difficult to decline (if they wanted to) because of his position as her boss ...and she could rightfully claim she feared repercussions if she refused to it.

Extremely poor judgement on his part.

Ive never found a bloke needing voltarol on his sore back some form of turn on. I've never met a bloke who thinks needing it on his back is sexy. Unless he's in his eighties, you're about the same age and he kept his dentures in 😂

Normally when a bloke fancies you and is trying to impress you they want to make you think they are fit as fuck. Not that they are creaking.

However it's weird to ask, so I'd assume he was in a bit of pain and needed the help to be frank

Annie you wouldn’t find rubbing cream into your bosses back while he stands half naked inappropriate?

Personally I wouldn’t even be comfortable doing that for my FIL let alone my boss.

Harvey Weinstein eat yer heart out.

I wouldn’t be comfortable about it but it would entirely depend on the relationship you have with them. If they were a really good friend then it would be a lot less weird.

Thistle. No, it wouldn’t bother me. I’ve seen many a man’s back before, very few of them are much to write home about. If someone in pain/discomfort needs some help with pain relief I’m not such a wilting violet that applying pain relief to their back is going to require the smelling salts.

It’s not like he dropped his trousers and ask her to rub it on his inner thighs.

It’s not about being a wilting violet 🙄

It’s about being uncomfortable with a man who has power over you blurring professional boundaries.

People at work should just be able to do their work and not spend time and energy on working out whether their boss is ‘just’ bad at boundaries or actually a creepy bastard you should be scared of.

Both A and B