Big girl pants and Tinder Dates

[SillySausage1234]

Hi

How can I get over the nerve wracking thought of actually going out and meeting some of these guys that I match with on tinder.

A couple messages a sent back and forth and then they just jump straight in with meeting up for a drink and it fills me with fear.

I tend to make my pathetic excuses about why I can’t this week but deep down I know I’m going to have to get over this worry because it seems a lot of people are meeting this way now. Not that I’m blaming my mum but she has put things in my head after reading the awful stories you hear in the paper, but that could happen anyway.

It’s not that I don’t want to go, I do, I want to meet more people and widen my social circle and if you think about it then meeting someone in a bar is no different or less risky really.

Prob just add that I was in a long term relationship which ended a couple years ago, dated guys since but nothing serious, all my close mates are coupled up or married so night outs are rare. I’m loosing the enthusiasm in meeting Someone on the off chance and my closest mates all encourage me to try tinder...

Some tinder stories would be great just so I know I’m not on my own thinking like this.... maybe I am, that’s the issue?!?

I've had a few dates from tinder. And also saw a couple of guys for a few months.

My best advice is, match through with a crop of three to five and just say hi to each other. Don't worry too much about how they look or what they say about themselves. Attraction can develop and bios can come off as stupid, even for a nice person.

If the conversation develops over a couple of days, offer to talk on the phone. That should be enough to know whether you want to meet them.

I wouldn't chat too much in advance of a date because the build up can make things harder. But again, don't be pressured to meet up too soon. If anyone does pressure you, bin them off.

If you do, meet them somewhere in daylight. I recommend taking your car or booking a taxi to get home.

Don't have big expectations. It's a numbers game. You have to be ready to pile through them. But eventually, you should click with someone.

Stay breezy. Don't give too much information about yourself away.