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Locked in

35 replies

namechangedtempo · 04/03/2018 07:15

Lots of things building up. Long story short, I've packed a bag and I'm leaving.

Other half has hid my car keys and gone out.

What do I do????!!!!!

OP posts:
somewhereovertherain · 04/03/2018 07:16

Call the police.

Original poster
namechangedtempo · 04/03/2018 07:17

Because I can't find my car keys?

OP posts:
Angrybird345 · 04/03/2018 07:19

Call him and ask him where they are? Book an appointment with a divorce lawyer?

DollyLlama · 04/03/2018 07:20

Can you leave without the car keys? If you're locked in, can you climb out of a window?

Original poster
namechangedtempo · 04/03/2018 07:22

I can't. It's snow outside and I have a small baby to consider so I can't walk. I'm also 30 miles from my family

OP posts:
Finola1step · 04/03/2018 07:22

Are you able to actually get out of the flat/house? If he has locked you in as your title suggests, then you can call the police.

Finola1step · 04/03/2018 07:24

Call your family and tell them what is going on.

generalexpert · 04/03/2018 07:24

Most cars come with two sets. Where's the other?

ememem84 · 04/03/2018 07:25

I’m imagining that other half has both sets of keys.

ChickenMom · 04/03/2018 07:26

Call a taxi to take you to your family

ChickenMom · 04/03/2018 07:26

Or call your family to come pick you up

PinkAvocado · 04/03/2018 07:27

Are you locked in or has he taken the car keys (or both)?

If not locked in, I’d get a taxi if possible.

HotelEuphoria · 04/03/2018 07:28

Ring him and text him and tell him if he doesn't tell you where your keys are you will call the police as you have been forcibly imprisoned.

PinkAvocado · 04/03/2018 07:28

I’m assuming he hasn’t hidden them in the house?

Giraffelant · 04/03/2018 07:28

Can you get out and go to a neighbour? Either call your family or the police from there.

HotelEuphoria · 04/03/2018 07:28

My house and car keys are on the same bunch.

Notallthat · 04/03/2018 07:31

Are you actually locked in or can get out the house but just can't leave? If he has physically locked you in call police?
Is he dangerous/violent/verbally abusive or just a dick? Is any of the first call police if the second try and get a family member ir friend to collect you.

Original poster
namechangedtempo · 04/03/2018 07:35

Sorry. Not "locked in". I've found my keys but he's taken the car key off. So I still have house key.

He's not abusive. Just a dickhead

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octonaught · 04/03/2018 07:39

He’s taken your car key off. Of course he’s abusive. You have a baby, and he is basically trapping you in the house. Where is the spare?
Can your parents come & get you?

Alabama3 · 04/03/2018 07:40

can your family collect you?

RainyApril · 04/03/2018 07:43

Just ask your family to collect you. 30 miles is nothing. In these circumstances I'm sure they'd drop everything to collect you.

Failing that, friend, colleague, neighbour, taxi?

43percentburnt · 04/03/2018 07:46

If your boss took your car key would that be acceptable? A man in the street? Would you take them from your friend? Your boyfriend?

Of course it's abusive. He has chosen to leave with your key. He has gone to the bother of removing it from your key ring. No doubt you threatened to leave so he fucked off out leaving you with no option but to remain in the house.

Leave anyway. Taxi if necessary. I would report to non emergency in case it escalates.

The person you live with is meant to treat you better than anyone else not worse.

43percentburnt · 04/03/2018 07:47

Oh and if you were my daughter I'd be there asap. 30 miles is neither here nor there. Call your family.

Frouby · 04/03/2018 07:49

Do you have AA cover? Key cover with the car insurance? Ring them and find out of they can replace it.

In the meantime if you are leaving him then leave. Phone a taxi or a family member to come for you. You can get the car another day.

Pastaagain78 · 04/03/2018 07:49

No, that IS abusive. Call your family.

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