Alone

[rosemarybuddha]

So alone In this world and don't know who to reach out to.

Horribly dysfunctional upbringing and consequently (I believe, in hindsight) similar marriage.

Feel so alone. Not sure there's an answer.

Thanks for any responses.

Anyone?

Hope you are ok ? I'm here if you need to talk

Think of life as a clock face sometimes you are at 12 o clock and other 6, It will soon be quarter to

Are you still married? Children? Do you work? What's your social life like!

Thank you

At a brick wall. Sorry to be so needy

What's happened to make you feel like your at a brick wall ?

Still married. No extended family (nc due to crime and dysfunction). No social life! Got very unwell 2 years ago but will not let that define me! I'm on the up all the time, but it's a struggle.
Had to leave my job when I got ill and am now working in a very physically demanding job. Also have put on a lot of weight due to antidepressants.
So....yep..it's hard. (Could be a lot harder)
Thanks for listening

Is your husband supportive of you ? I'm sorry to hear about your troubles ...

Hi Katie
Feel very very alone.
Thanks for responding.

I'm afraid he's not Katie. A big fat separate issue.
Again, thanks for answering. Means so much.

Your not alone I'm here for you ...have you told your husband how your feeling ? Do you have a close friend or work colleague you could meet up with for a coffee and a chat

Has there been a trigger to feeling like this? How can we help? I am listening and sending virtual hugs.

Thanks Katie. Unfortunately I have no one. How ridiculous does that sound! Partly my own-doing from isolating myself from everyone.
A big complicated mess but in the here and now I really appreciate you listening.

It's hard when you've had a messy upbringing and then a disconnected marriage. But...I know a lot of people have far worse lives.

Thanks again for listening.

I had an awful childhood- but have managed in recent years to realise that this does not define me. I still struggle- sometimes I assume people still pity me and feel sorry for the poor girl who’s mum is an alcoholic.... but that’s not me now.

I also have an awful marriage- disconnected is a good way to describe it!
How can I help?

Where in the country are you petal? X

Thanks Swarskid.

Lots of triggers - recent and old!

Working my head around them as best I can.

Thanks for 'being there'. Really means a lot.

There's lots of people who would like to listen to you, believe you, advise you and support you.

On here, in real life - your doctor etc.

Something has made you reach out today. You've decided you don't want to carry on this way

Don’t forget The Samaritans..really helpful to think things through.

Didn't expect such kindness. Thank you
all.

Swarskid - I'm so sorry that things are rubbish for you. Please message me if you'd like to. So kind of you to listen to me when things have been hard for you too.

Carjrl I'm in the South East.

MrsElvis - I really don't want this life but feel so stuck. My son is doing his A Levels (first year) and I'm definitely stuck until he finishes. Want to and will support him as best I can.

Thanks Orlando, I phoned the Samaritans a few nights ago - such selfless helpful people. The woman I spoke to was amazing and lovely.

Thanks all. I feel I don't always express myself well but so grateful. Thank you.

The Samaritans are brilliant, and you can talk- or stay connected and silent- for as long as you want to.

Teenage years are hard. Having to be there for your DS whilst feeling rubbish yourself is really tough.

Make sure that you make time to look after yourself. For me that is a long bath and a cup of tea in bed with a good book...😀

Ive been alone for a few years now i dont go out or realy mix with people im so destroyed by my lower dentures.i feel so alone apart from my son and daughters i have no one in my life.im so upset with my teeth its destroying me inside im scared to met a lady because of the lower dentures ill fitting i can eat talk proplery dont have the funds to go private biggist mistake i ever made having my teeth removed. I just cant face people anymore ive felt that low that ive wondered if my life is worth anything anymore only caring for my beautiful son keeps me going i had problems with my lower teeth due to many years of combat sports just dont which way to turn anybody feeling the same id love to know how you cope im desperate for help confidence no existent now.

Nicky- so sorry to hear that. Could you talk to your GP? With your teeth having such an impact on your life, they should be able to help.

I had a shit upbringing too. It caught up with me when I had children. I know this will sound like a cliché but you need to be your best friend. Start liking yourself. You sound like such a lovely person. I still feel lonely at times but when those negative thoughts cime into my head i sing a happy song to myself. to distract myself.
Write down what you are grateful for everyday. Go to a book club, salsa dancing ,whatever, to get out there and enjoy yourself.