So lonely in early pregnancy

[Tenderandtired]

Feeling very sad today and just need to let it all out.

I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant and just feeling so down and lonely. I am originally from the North East, but have lived in London for six years. I do have a few friends here, but they are always busy, so we meet once a month at the most. I have a few other friends, but they have moved to the next county. I used to be very sociable, but this tailed off during the 2+ years I was fighting infertility. Turns out the people I hung out with then don't want to know now I'm no longer a party animal.

DH and I both work. My job is very community based though, so I don't really interact much with work colleagues. My job is finishing next month however which is great timing.

DH is at work today and I'm alone in flat feeling like shit (I've had really severe nausea and vomiting, and I'm on anti sickness meds) it's sounds pathetic, but I'm just acutely aware that there's nobody I can ask to come round and see me. I'm grateful to have a nice DH, be pregnant etc, but I just want to cry from loneliness. DH family don't live in London either. I just want to go round my parents for tea and a hug, but they are 200 odd miles away

Sorry for self pitying rant. Just having one of those days.

So sorry you feel like that!
I’m now a mum of two.... I have similar friend situation and felt really lonely in my pregnancies. To be honest I still feel like that sometimes.
Pregnancy makes most people more sensitive, also when you’re sick all the time it makes you feel s**t. But hang on there after 12 weeks things get much better, second trimester is much more enjoyable!
Try to keep yourself busy, I used to just plan my baby stuff (room, clothes, etc.) Listen to music, go for walk.
Friends do seem to disappear after you get pregnant/have a baby.
I hope you feel better! Hugs!

Search Facebook for some antenatal groups in your area. You’ll meet lots of lovely friends due around the same time as you, and lots of friends for your new DC xxx

Thank you irish you're very kind.

I'm sorry you sometimes feel lonely too. It isn't easy is it? The feeling dreadful doesn't help. I've had to cancel seeing friends a few times in last month as I'm so ill.

I suppose I just miss that "friends just dropping round, or going for impromptu coffee" I did it a lot more back home, but in London everything has to be planned a fortnight in advance minimum. I tried reaching out to a friend last month and she suggested we meet for brunch three weeks later! I just thought "I'm sad and need your help now ffs"

I think everyone thinks that now I'm married to DH everything is sorted for me, but I still need my friends! We're planning on moving back to NE in the Summer. So that's something else I'm stressing about. I'm having twins, so need to be nearer to my parents as we have no practical support down here.

I'll have a look Tokenginger Thank you for the suggestion

I’ve been in London for 10 years now and got used to it. Back home I used to see friends few times a week and like you said.... sometimes they would just drop by for a coffee.
Sometismes I feel friends only want someone to go out drinking with, they’re not so keen on boring coffee in my house haha.
Do try and join some local groups etc. You can meet people in the same situation as you!
Congratulations to you two little miracles :-). You will definitely need lots of support so it’s great you’re moving closer to your family.
You will be ok, it normal to have ups and downs. But your babies are worth it 😉

Congratulations .

Do something nice for yourself today. Make some plans to see your parents. Maybe try Meet ups or Bumble to meet some new people, if you feel up to it.